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It seems to be in my observation that both sexes on this forum both enjoy and love sex am I correct? But to the females, let me ask you this, is or was there a time when you were gaining experience in sex that you felt uncomfortable and disgusting? How did you deal and cope with the after effects so that you are the or have become the sexual people we all are now because I want to help my g/f with her dilemma with this. Men of course enjoy and love sex, the enjoy it so much that there usually is after thoughts or second thoughts or should i say "guilty thoughts"
See my dilemma is this, of course me and g/f are young, I'm 19 she's 18. Her last relationship which blew up and regrets now changed her into sexual creature she is now. Being inexperienced at the age of 16, she got involved with this bastard who loves the feeling of being in control, thus naming this his "game" Sex can make or break because of the emotional connection it makes. But alot of times people have become comfortable and more comfortable and its an normal thing. From what I've seen on the board, you all have spouses already, or at least girlfriends or boyfriends. Going back to the story, being inexperienced as she was, not a virgin, but inexperienced, she at one point became tired of the fact of having sex all the time, feelings like these are normal for her age and herself am I right? But this guy she was with was in the game way farther than she was, he was 20 when she was 16. It came to point where she wanted to stop that he didn't respect that fact and now she feels like she was raped at times. Her mind is still intact that it hasn't been mindphucked like his other victims. Now that we're together its been and up and down with the feelings of sex because we both want it mutual for each other. The love and trust and committment is all on the table. Problems seems to arise when she gets bothered with herself as she claims that. She blames these "problems" which all revolve around sex on herself. She feels dirty, slutty, disgusting, sometimes, even though we want each other mutually. The sex has been awesome like we've never had before even though we're still teenagers who have had partners that we just banged like rabbits all day long, but I've decided to hold until she's ready. There has been some oral but no penetration. I respect the fact of her being this way and I understand. I want to help of course but I can really care less about sex. Its not what we have built ourselves on in this relationship. There are no pointless quarrels and no drama, just person realization problems. It seems to be that she feels guilty of enjoying the feeling of sex ? Should a solution be that she needs more time or needs more sex to get used to it? This is where I'm stuck at. So if you females have any feedback at all, I'd appreciate it very much.
See my dilemma is this, of course me and g/f are young, I'm 19 she's 18. Her last relationship which blew up and regrets now changed her into sexual creature she is now. Being inexperienced at the age of 16, she got involved with this bastard who loves the feeling of being in control, thus naming this his "game" Sex can make or break because of the emotional connection it makes. But alot of times people have become comfortable and more comfortable and its an normal thing. From what I've seen on the board, you all have spouses already, or at least girlfriends or boyfriends. Going back to the story, being inexperienced as she was, not a virgin, but inexperienced, she at one point became tired of the fact of having sex all the time, feelings like these are normal for her age and herself am I right? But this guy she was with was in the game way farther than she was, he was 20 when she was 16. It came to point where she wanted to stop that he didn't respect that fact and now she feels like she was raped at times. Her mind is still intact that it hasn't been mindphucked like his other victims. Now that we're together its been and up and down with the feelings of sex because we both want it mutual for each other. The love and trust and committment is all on the table. Problems seems to arise when she gets bothered with herself as she claims that. She blames these "problems" which all revolve around sex on herself. She feels dirty, slutty, disgusting, sometimes, even though we want each other mutually. The sex has been awesome like we've never had before even though we're still teenagers who have had partners that we just banged like rabbits all day long, but I've decided to hold until she's ready. There has been some oral but no penetration. I respect the fact of her being this way and I understand. I want to help of course but I can really care less about sex. Its not what we have built ourselves on in this relationship. There are no pointless quarrels and no drama, just person realization problems. It seems to be that she feels guilty of enjoying the feeling of sex ? Should a solution be that she needs more time or needs more sex to get used to it? This is where I'm stuck at. So if you females have any feedback at all, I'd appreciate it very much.
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