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Ok so here's a situation. You get drunk and sleep with someone without using any protection. (Stupid enough as is it is.) But assuming you know the person is on birth control, obviously your next concern is STDs. You cant tell by how sweet and innocent the person is if they have anything. So if you ask them, "When is the last time you have been tested?" Is that not a fair fucking question? Does the other person have the right to get all pissed and offended that you would ask such a thing?
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no offense but not using protection with someone you hardly know is pure and simple fucking stupid. the fact that she didnt make you use protection tells me a lot about her also. bottom line, you are a fuckin idiot and you should be worried.. no offense. :) -
Actually, it is sort of offensive. Don't do things today that you're going to regret tomorrow. After all, does it matter when the last time she was "tested" was? The outcome is the same whether it was last week or last year.Comment
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and he wouldn't have to ask the question in the first place if he had used protection.Originally posted by FitnessBrat View Post
don't jump off a bridge and then ask if someone has a parachute.Comment
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too late to say im asking on behalf of someone else? :hmm:
seriously though i know it was fuckin stupid and its definately the first time ive ever done such a thing with someone i wasnt in a relationship with. basically the only question was if that question was offensive. very good point the FB i dont plan on doing it again so all i can do is get tested myself cuz either way whats done is done.Comment
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I think you are looking for answers to give you some sort of power back that you feel you lost. What will the answer to this question bring you? It sounds like you are trying to latch back on to something to feel a bit of control when all you feel is scared.Comment
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No actually I asked her and she got all pissed and offended and claimed yes she had been tested. Sure I'm worried but IMO she was just as stupid as I was. I don't feel I would have the right to get offended over such a question, so why should she? I think its a pretty fair question considering it takes two to tango.Originally posted by Shibby View PostComment
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It shows a high level of disrespect. You will fuck her and treat her like a prostitute or some sort of property. The answer does nothing for you except try and put yourself on a pedestal. Instead of saying she doesn't need to worry and let her show you the same respect, you put her beneath you as if you could never be the one to give an STD and it would be all on her.Comment
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I did tell her that i had been tested first. that was the first thing i said and she actually got mad at that before she even said anything.Originally posted by Shibby View Post
saying i fucked her and treated her like a prostitute and put her beneath me is a little much. she bears just as much of the responsibility as i do.
lets flip it around. and be honest here. say i make a post bitching and moaning because some girl i slept with and didnt use protection with, had the audacity to ask me of my history and if i had been tested. you people would have told me she had every right to ask that and that i should stop bitching. now tell me im wrong about that...Comment
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See, more information is still coming out. I was giving you my opinion on the information given. I'm not saying you do or don't have a right to know. The way you made it sound before is that you just all of a sudden asked if she had been tested. In the end, the answer doesn't matter unless she was tested right before having sex with you. Then there is still a chance of getting an STD. So trying to figure out if she was rational or not in her actions is secondary or third to just taking responsibility and monitoring yourself. I'm sure most of us are looking past this by-product of the situation and hope you do the same.Comment
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True i should have said that in the beginning. but when i talked to her solely to tell her i had been tested, it was obvious i was looking for an answer. so to me the two are on and the same. either way i just put myself in the opposite position and i just dont think i have the right to feel offended after i own 50% of the responsibility for something dumb as shit. i feel i lost the right to get offended by any such inquiry so why shouldnt she be the same? basically thats my point.Comment
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She probably feels you questioned her integrity after having sex with you. Maybe her trust was in you the same she hoped yours was in her, no matter how irrational it was to trust each other. That if there was something to be concerned with you wouldn't knowingly engage in any kind of sex with her. Obviously no one was thinking rationally and both were at least slightly scared now. So the whole thing is something that should be a life lesson and the irrational behavior should be taken personal and shouldn't be taken personal, depending on the pieces of the events.Comment
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Oh boy Grinder! you should know better bro, anyway you were prolly that quick in and out the std didn't get chance!Comment
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