I can't wait to be a parent.

[FitnessBrat]

bro , i got the same thing but it was from my mother ,

tried drowning me , beat me with sticks , tried to smother me , i could go on and on its not fucking pretty ,

i get angry , i lash out , hurting someone doesnt bother me , i carry and will carry deep scars till death ,

i vowed that if i ever had kids i would never treat them that way - my kids are my world , my life , i am very protective of them - i will hurt a motherfucker that crosses the wrong path with me and my 2 girls they mean more to me then my own life -

i should have went into the service -- i feel it would have helped me with my anger -- i turned to the gym and beating myself into the ground its what keeps the beast at bay

BLM , reading your post - brought up memories of my own brother

:(


Good for you to stop the vicious cycle. You may generally be an "angry" person, but you don't do to your children as was done to you.

[NewbieChris]

Perfect example happens when you have kids that isn't usually what people without them think about. My oldest son (3) didn't have a nap today. The days he doesn't feel tired at nap time he is usually starts to get cranky close to bath time. He does things he wouldn't normally do and knows he's not suppose to. Well today was one of the worse. About 7:50 he started crying over stupid things and started being very disrespectful to my wife. I told him to go clean his room and he said no. So he lost his bedtime story. He was very upset and he went straight to his bath (about 8pm at this time). Getting upset and being whiney through the whole bath. I was drying him off and he started crying again. I asked him "what's wrong baby Niko", he got about 2 inch's from my face and yelled "don't call me a baby". Got him dressed and he is still crying a little (about 8:10pm) Went and dried his hair, cleaned up his room a little bit. He went and told my wife and baby good night. I went into the bedroom with him to tuck him in, still crying. (8:20pm) He wanted his story and I had to talk to him about why he doesn't get it and get him calmed down. I finally told him good night and left the room about 8:30pm. Now the point is that this is unusual for him, but it's still a part of everything. It's tough to have to draw the line between the fun stuff and being a parent. Every parent here probably can relate in some similar way, but those that haven't have kids it's really hard to explain how real these things are and how many "unusual" events you will have to go through. Today it was this, tomorrow it may be him spilling stuff all day. Another day he may have a few potty accidents out of no where. Then there are days when he will be so good and show you something new he has learned and there is never a more proud moment.

I understand this, not trying to be a 'know-it-all', but I've been through a lot. Granted it wasn't with my own child, but I've been working with kids for almost 6 years. You may, or may not, be surprised at how kids act at day camps, etc. I have had very similar experience, but the cranky attitude wasn't due to the lack of nap. It was due to the fact that the kid had to get up at 5 am with his father every morning. I may not have had the entire experience, but like I said earlier...and know I have said before, its really the entire adventure I am excited about.

[NewbieChris]

That explains a lot. They should have slapped the fuck out of you. ;)

One time my father went to spank me because, who knows I probably talked back, but he sat on my toy guitar and broke it. He looked at me and I just started crying...

[Bouncer]

One time my father went to spank me because, who knows I probably talked back, but he sat on my toy guitar and broke it. He looked at me and I just started crying...

that was what.. like a week ago?

[NewbieChris]

that was what.. like a week ago?

:fufool: No, that was your mom like a week ago...

[Bouncer]

:fufool: No, that was your mom like a week ago...

my mom would beat the piss out of your yuppy ass.

[NewbieChris]

my mom would beat the piss out of your yuppy ass.

:rofl: yuppy...lol

[Shibby]

I understand this, not trying to be a 'know-it-all', but I've been through a lot. Granted it wasn't with my own child, but I've been working with kids for almost 6 years. You may, or may not, be surprised at how kids act at day camps, etc. I have had very similar experience, but the cranky attitude wasn't due to the lack of nap. It was due to the fact that the kid had to get up at 5 am with his father every morning. I may not have had the entire experience, but like I said earlier...and know I have said before, its really the entire adventure I am excited about.

It's good you know some of the hardships. As you go through these events be sure to think about what it would be like if it still continued when you went home, during weekends, when plans you are real excited about change. Not to say you haven't, just try to remind yourself as much as possible.

Too add, when all this just becomes a passing event, that's when all the great things about being a parent come through.

[Bouncer]

One time my father went to spank me because, who knows I probably talked back, but he sat on my toy guitar and broke it. He looked at me and I just started crying...

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