Are to too hard on yourself or too easy?

[alwaysgrowing]

This has to do with my other thread. I am too hard on myself often. I fell I am a perfectionist and over-competitive. When someone scores higher than me on a test, I am livid. I am never big enough, smart enough, fast enough for my own liking. This leads me to drive myself forward every day, but at the same time I beat myself for it. So what are you?

[BIGFELLA]

i would have to say im way too easy on myself. need to be harder in every aspect.

[NewbieChris]

I would say I am too easy on myself as well. I don't believe I push myself hard enough and have enough self-discipline at times. If you believe you have to be the best at everything you are setting yourself up for failure. Settig goals and the means by which you meet those goals is the only criteria you can use tojudge yourself. For example, you may want to be the biggest, but others will undobtly be as big. Arnold was the best because of his presentation of his work. You have to honestly think, "how much different did he really look?"

[dna9488]

I am hard on my self. I constantly down grade myself and overdo it when it comes to simple tasks.

I want to be the best at everything, and I know it will take a lot of work and dedication.

[Shibby]

I put just right because I don't think I am either enough to one extreme to vote that way. I would lean more too hard on myself in some aspects and too easy on myself in others. So I wouldn't say I'm just right, it just depends on the topic.

[Mr I]

I put too easy, all my life I've had people say how I could be this and that if I put more effort in, saying that though I've had my share of traumas so ever since I got older and in control of my life I decided to kick back

[Shibby]

Religion:fufool:

So would that fall under the category of too hard or too soft on myself?:idea:

[bigscott]

ask my wife and those that know me if i am hard on myself -- i will drive myself into the ground to reach goals -

it will be what kills me some day -- i am trying to reach a goal that is unattainable everyday i step foot in the gym and that goal is perfection --

perfection does not exist !!!! but i will kill myself trying to reach it -

i grew up being told by my mother that i am fat , stupid , worthless etc etc so in turn nothing is ever right in my eyes . its the way i have wired myself !! so yes i am very hard on myself

[NewbieChris]

i grew up being told by my mother that i am fat , stupid , worthless etc etc so in turn nothing is ever right in my eyes . its the way i have wired myself !! so yes i am very hard on myself

Parents are so fucked up. When I was little my father showered me with attention and would have done anything for me because my Mom had her 'prince' who was my older brother. Nothing I ever did was good enough to compare to him. Hell, even in High School, I was in the same math class as him my freshman year, I did better on tests, but the attention always fell to him. He played football, I played with cars. My hobby wasn't the norm and because of that I had to get a job and he sat on his ass after practice and went out partying on weekends.

That fucked me up so bad. Now, I have a complete inferiority complex and I see it everyday. I can lose weight and have someone compliment me, but it means nothing to me. I write it off as someone being nice. Its also compounded by the fact that I wrote my dissertation on lack of economic knowledge due to the lack of people to properly judge how they realistically feel. People will tell you one thing and feel another. It isn't until you trigger an unconscious reaction, often anger, that you realize their true feelings.

I think this is why I'm so fucked up. :D

[dna9488]

i grew up being told by my mother that i am fat , stupid , worthless etc etc so in turn nothing is ever right in my eyes . its the way i have wired myself !! so yes i am very hard on myself

Ya same here man. My father was the one that told me stuff like that.

Whenever i got anything lower than an A on my report card, he would bitch at me and say I would grow up to be a garbage collector unless i kept gettin straight A's


Started since i was in 2 grade, from what i can remember.

[3v1lj03]

If you are out of the house the parents excuse is no good any more you can decide who to you want to be. I had all those experiences and more I am not the person they said I would be.

[FrankTheTank55]

My hobby wasn't the norm and because of that I had to get a job and he sat on his ass after practice and went out partying on weekends.

OK, Chris what was your hobby?

[The_Grinder]

I'm too hard on myself because I am always trying to find problems with myself. Its one thing to keep working to improve, but its another thing to never be happy with certain things about yourself. I need to work on my attitude along with my physique.

[bigscott]

If you are out of the house the parents excuse is no good any more you can decide who to you want to be. I had all those experiences and more I am not the person they said I would be.

neither am i ! but i still carry scars bro -- when the person you put trust in as a child trys to drown you , smother you with pillows etc etc it tends to stay with you in life

its why i am very protective of my family -- vowed to never be like my parents

[FitnessBrat]

If you are out of the house the parents excuse is no good any more you can decide who to you want to be. I had all those experiences and more I am not the person they said I would be.

It's not an excuse to treat others the way you were treated (or in any other negative way) but it DOES contribute to the person you become in some way. Rather it be lack of trust, anger, etc. You can't grow up in an environment like that and not be affected in some way.