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So, when I was pregnant, all my in laws could talk about was the baby...my MIL would say "look @ our baby" to people, and threw me a shower, hand made a couple of quilts, etc. Needless to say, she was way excited. This was the first grandchild. And, based on the fact that my brother in law is getting divorced- will be the only grandchild until we have a 2nd.
Just to give you all a little background- she had it in for me from the start. She told my husband he shouldn't marry me, she tried to get us to postpone our wedding to be AFTER his brothers when we were engaged first, she went into this big long spiel at my BIL's rehearsal dinner about how & why each of her 3 boys are special to her, and why her soon to be daughter in law is special, etc. My husband & I were married 3 months before, and she did not say ONE word about me....and of course sat me in the corner across the room with people I didn't even know...She didnt' even sit me with the family. And, she can be really fake.
Ever since we had Kenley, she has only been to our house twice to see her since she was born. EVERY other time has been at her house, on her terms. We have said to her "You are welcome anytime, just call us first, and you can come see her", or "Come over on a Sunday, A's mom comes over every Sunday to see her" Her repeated rebuttal to our repeated offers is "You guys are so busy". She doesn't even call on a weekly basis to see how Kenley is doing. So, while I don't like the woman, and can see through her antics, I think it is very selfish and spiteful to what she is doing. My husband asked his brother 1 on 1 a couple weeks ago what her problem is. His bro said "Well, you know"...Sonis said, "No, I don't- what?". His bro said "Because it's not on her terms. She doesn't have the control"....which is what we knew it was all along.
How is this even possible? Was the entire excitement when I was pregnant just one big charade???? There is a family reunion coming up in mid October, and when she sees her for the first time in 2 1/2 months about how big she's gotten, I'm going to say "Well, maybe you should come see her once in awhile"...in front of the family. And, quite frankly- I don't give a fuck what happens because of it. If she is that petty and spiteful, then she doesn't deserve to be a part of my daughter's life anyway.
What do all of you think? Or, what would all of you do in my shoes?
Just to give you all a little background- she had it in for me from the start. She told my husband he shouldn't marry me, she tried to get us to postpone our wedding to be AFTER his brothers when we were engaged first, she went into this big long spiel at my BIL's rehearsal dinner about how & why each of her 3 boys are special to her, and why her soon to be daughter in law is special, etc. My husband & I were married 3 months before, and she did not say ONE word about me....and of course sat me in the corner across the room with people I didn't even know...She didnt' even sit me with the family. And, she can be really fake.
Ever since we had Kenley, she has only been to our house twice to see her since she was born. EVERY other time has been at her house, on her terms. We have said to her "You are welcome anytime, just call us first, and you can come see her", or "Come over on a Sunday, A's mom comes over every Sunday to see her" Her repeated rebuttal to our repeated offers is "You guys are so busy". She doesn't even call on a weekly basis to see how Kenley is doing. So, while I don't like the woman, and can see through her antics, I think it is very selfish and spiteful to what she is doing. My husband asked his brother 1 on 1 a couple weeks ago what her problem is. His bro said "Well, you know"...Sonis said, "No, I don't- what?". His bro said "Because it's not on her terms. She doesn't have the control"....which is what we knew it was all along.
How is this even possible? Was the entire excitement when I was pregnant just one big charade???? There is a family reunion coming up in mid October, and when she sees her for the first time in 2 1/2 months about how big she's gotten, I'm going to say "Well, maybe you should come see her once in awhile"...in front of the family. And, quite frankly- I don't give a fuck what happens because of it. If she is that petty and spiteful, then she doesn't deserve to be a part of my daughter's life anyway.
What do all of you think? Or, what would all of you do in my shoes?
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