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Man, I am so sick of this woman ruining my plans. To put it lightly, she is the epitome of passive aggresive. EVERYTHING is her way. This woman is a total control freak. IF you try and call her on it, she explains it away or doesn't answer the question at all. I'm sure some of you have seen a couple of my other threads regarding her antics. I need your feedback on what I should do. Here's the gist:
The past 10 years, we have gone to his mother's house in the evening of Christmas Day. But, this year Sonis & I asked his family to come to our house on Christmas Day around 5. We do Christmas w/ my family prior to that. This is Kenley's first Christmas, and 1) I don't want my day ruled by deadlines, (WE have to have the turkey in by a certain time, eat by a certain time, and then eat & run right out the door) 2) I don't want to spend my day running all over, 3) It takes a long time to pack her up, and when you throw in gifts & stuff- forget it. 4) Their house is about 1/2 the size of ours, and it is so freaking crowded- add a baby to it??? 5) I/We can't stand what she cooks. I just want to relax & enjoy the holiday with my baby that I've waited so long for.
His mother BLATANTLY refused. Said she packed up 3 boys & did it, so we can do it too. However, I have several problems with her requests- Sonis got laid off when I was about 6 months pregnant. His mother had a fair bit of remodeling to do at her house. She asked sonis to do it, then renegged and gave it to his brother who was gainfully employed. Secondly, she has taken such little interest in Kenley since she was born- the woman doesn't work, and she's seen her 6 times in the past 8 months, I'm having a very hard time rewarding her for her shitty behavior. Again- it all has to be on her terms. If we don't bring Kenley TO HER, she doesn't call to come to our house.
Here are my options:
1) Kenley & I stay home. Sonis can go there by himself
2) All 3 of us go over there, but tell her we WON'T be there for dinner
3) Sonis & Kenley go, and I stay home
4) We tell his mom to move it to the next day- we can be over whenever.
The past 10 years, we have gone to his mother's house in the evening of Christmas Day. But, this year Sonis & I asked his family to come to our house on Christmas Day around 5. We do Christmas w/ my family prior to that. This is Kenley's first Christmas, and 1) I don't want my day ruled by deadlines, (WE have to have the turkey in by a certain time, eat by a certain time, and then eat & run right out the door) 2) I don't want to spend my day running all over, 3) It takes a long time to pack her up, and when you throw in gifts & stuff- forget it. 4) Their house is about 1/2 the size of ours, and it is so freaking crowded- add a baby to it??? 5) I/We can't stand what she cooks. I just want to relax & enjoy the holiday with my baby that I've waited so long for.
His mother BLATANTLY refused. Said she packed up 3 boys & did it, so we can do it too. However, I have several problems with her requests- Sonis got laid off when I was about 6 months pregnant. His mother had a fair bit of remodeling to do at her house. She asked sonis to do it, then renegged and gave it to his brother who was gainfully employed. Secondly, she has taken such little interest in Kenley since she was born- the woman doesn't work, and she's seen her 6 times in the past 8 months, I'm having a very hard time rewarding her for her shitty behavior. Again- it all has to be on her terms. If we don't bring Kenley TO HER, she doesn't call to come to our house.
Here are my options:
1) Kenley & I stay home. Sonis can go there by himself
2) All 3 of us go over there, but tell her we WON'T be there for dinner
3) Sonis & Kenley go, and I stay home
4) We tell his mom to move it to the next day- we can be over whenever.
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