Its so hard to split up with a person. Ive been with my gf for 2 years and I do love and care for her very much. We both dont treat each other like we once did she'll say cause I act different and I say the same about her. We fight all the time over the smallest shit it seems like all we are is roomates. I think if we both would try and make changes I think it would work out but it always seems to fail. I do love her and want to be with her. My issues are that she tends to always be negitive ,my outlook is if there is a problem either work on something to fix it,and if not dont bitch about it. An example is she hates her job but yet she only works like 20 hours a week and in her off time she doesnt look for another one but will bitch about it all day. She acts like she cant do anything for herself and has drive to do anything to better her self or work harder to be positive,now she'll say she is and yes me to death but it never changes. Now I know I am to blame for some of our problems but damn I do everything. I just want us to be happy like we were but Im sure it will happen and I have mentioned her moveing back home if that would be better for her life and I do mean it that is if her life would be better as in she would happier without me then she should do it,of course when I say that she says well then u want to break up with me and starts all that shit. I cant ever speak my mind without her getting an attitude or taking everything the wrong way. Now she moved with me from the east coast to cali so I cant just leave her I couldnt do that. She is 24 and Im 31 she would have to go back to her familys house she cant afford to stay here without me and has no friends here so Id have to make sure she is ok. I think one issue is the fact that she is conected to my hip she has no life or friends outside of me. I try and tell her to go out,my party and going out days are over but she is still at that age and I dont want her to be mad later on in life cause she didnt do things but when I tell her to make friends and go out she'll say she thinks I dont want to spend anytime with her. I just dont know what to do and Ive told her all this but it goes no where. I want to fix it and be happy together but if not I just dont know if I could leave her. I know it might be the best thing but Im not sure. As my gf she should be my cheerleader as in she should be behind and motivate me but instead she just complains all day or rolls her eyes and huffs and puffs. I hate to sound like im just putting her down cause at one point we were madly in love I just hope it wasnt just lust or something. I just dont know what to do.
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