Someone needs to slap me...

[NewbieChris]

So, I got into a relationship that was doomed to failure from the beginning. I met the person when they were on the skirts with their ex. The ex was an ass and ended up dumping her. Well, time went on and we went out every night together, hanging out, etc. We slowly evolved into what I consider a relationship. We talked every day, hung out every night, etc. I really was under the impression things would go somewhere.

Well, one Friday we are working out and I kinda snapped at her cause I was upset about my workout. I instantly apologized, but she was pissy the rest of the night. At the end of the workout she told me she thought we needed to take a break and all this bullshit. However, she wanted to hang out with me the next day (which was my birthday) and we would start the break the next week. We ended up resolving, I thought, our problems that night.

The next day was my birthday and she was late meeting up with me, but of course I thought we had a great time once we did meet up. For dinner, I wanted to see my friends so we invited them as well. After dinner she said she had to go home and do homework and then she might go out with friends. Well, I was kinda pissed about that to say the least. I told her I thought its a shitty thing to do to someone you say your really care about. It was, after all, my birthday.

Anyway, we've been arguing via text and phone for a week since my birthday. I had a shitty birthday and a shitty week because of this bitch, but I still really like her. I feel like a fucking battered wife and I am over it, but every time I think about her I get sad and moody. Someone needs to beat the bleeding vagina out of me...

[the art of war]

well you developed a crush and lets face it she is in it to make herself happy - everything you said about her points that she chooses her over your feelings. Just end it now and continue doing what you are doing, meeting new people not everyone is gonna be scummy like that bro. And stop fucking beating yourself up over this shit, seriously. Sometimes I want to sew your lips shut, but you're a good dude and having some women problems can be solved a lot easier if you aren't downing on yourself.

[bigscott]

being the rebound is never good bro !!! stop texting and talking to her for a bit and see what happens

if she is fine with not hearing from you then keep it moving brother . find someone else

[the art of war]

yeah btw bro - fuck texting and shit - you just gotta look her in the eyes and tell, "listen baby, you me we goin on a date..." sorry nah for real tho - I get so pissed when im with a girl and shes texting to all her "bffe" - shits so annoying, if it's worth saying, say it to her face. You wear the pants.

[the art of war]

Hey Chris, since you've mentioned before you are not having sex till marriage - have you considered maybe that she is a little ancy bro ? I know most girls i go out with need a good fuck or within a day or so they start to get pretty irritable - at least 20-30 age range. Also she might simply think you don't want her and that would hurt her and turn her off. Just ideas bro.

[mofo]

I know most girls i go out with need a good fuck or within a day or so they start to get pretty irritable - at least 20-30 age range. Also she might simply think you don't want her and that would hurt her and turn her off. Just ideas bro.

lmao. AOW, you hang out with that crowd. i don't think chris does.

anyway, if she JUST broke up with her ex and is being weird, it could be the fact that she either A) hasn't gotten over the ex, B) doesn't know how to start off a new relationship (if the previous one was a long one) or C) like AOW said, she just needs a physical relationship to comfort herself but is thinking like she doesn't want the emotional part yet.

i would agree with the majority and just stop talking to her. if she doesn't text or call then you can pretty much assume she just latched onto you because you were the closest (aka rebound).

as for working out with a significant other, i don't approve unless you're both able to ignore each other without hurting feelings. dna and i went to the gym for cardio the other day and (he knows this already) but when he tries to tell me how much time is left or whatever and trying to talk to me i get really irked.

[bigscott]

lmao. AOW, you hang out with that crowd. i don't think chris does.

anyway, if she JUST broke up with her ex and is being weird, it could be the fact that she either A) hasn't gotten over the ex, B) doesn't know how to start off a new relationship (if the previous one was a long one) or C) like AOW said, she just needs a physical relationship to comfort herself but is thinking like she doesn't want the emotional part yet.

i would agree with the majority and just stop talking to her. if she doesn't text or call then you can pretty much assume she just latched onto you because you were the closest (aka rebound).

as for working out with a significant other, i don't approve unless you're both able to ignore each other without hurting feelings. dna and i went to the gym for cardio the other day and (he knows this already) but when he tries to tell me how much time is left or whatever and trying to talk to me i get really irked.

OK DBJ -- that avatar is what i am talking about babe just have to love ass :hibb:

[the art of war]

lmao. AOW, you hang out with that crowd. i don't think chris does.

anyway, if she JUST broke up with her ex and is being weird, it could be the fact that she either A) hasn't gotten over the ex, B) doesn't know how to start off a new relationship (if the previous one was a long one) or C) like AOW said, she just needs a physical relationship to comfort herself but is thinking like she doesn't want the emotional part yet.

i would agree with the majority and just stop talking to her. if she doesn't text or call then you can pretty much assume she just latched onto you because you were the closest (aka rebound).

as for working out with a significant other, i don't approve unless you're both able to ignore each other without hurting feelings. dna and i went to the gym for cardio the other day and (he knows this already) but when he tries to tell me how much time is left or whatever and trying to talk to me i get really irked.

you sound kinda irritable :hibb::hibb::hibb:

[mofo]

OK DBJ -- that avatar is what i am talking about babe just have to love ass :hibb:

hahaha. calm down cowboy. it's a picture, not an actual ass. :P

you sound kinda irritable :hibb::hibb::hibb:

really? how so?

[the art of war]

Hey Chris, since you've mentioned before you are not having sex till marriage - have you considered maybe that she is a little ancy bro ? I know most girls i go out with need a good fuck or within a day or so they start to get pretty irritable - at least 20-30 age range. Also she might simply think you don't want her and that would hurt her and turn her off. Just ideas bro.

really? how so?

haha I was just messin around with ya - I'm sure DNA keeps you from being irritable :kiss::bj::inlove:

[alwaysgrowing]

I've said this before, the person who cares )or at least seems to) always has the power in the relationship. The one who cares most will have the most to lose, and therefor be at a disadvantage in the power department.

Chris,

if you do eveything for a girl, it gets old. Try being a wiseass. You don't have to be malicious, but in a kidding way. Nex time you see her, and she is semi dressed ip, tell her it looks like she took a REAL LONG time to get ready and she looks nice. ITs a compliment telling her she looks nice, but the fact you made it seem like she doens't always will drive her nuts. It sounds strange, but if you give them what they want, they walk all over you. Make her chase you.

[Bouncer]

I feel like a fucking battered wife .

thats because you are nancy..

[the art of war]

I've said this before, the person who cares )or at least seems to) always has the power in the relationship. The one who cares most will have the most to lose, and therefor be at a disadvantage in the power department.

Chris,

if you do eveything for a girl, it gets old. Try being a wiseass. You don't have to be malicious, but in a kidding way. Nex time you see her, and she is semi dressed ip, tell her it looks like she took a REAL LONG time to get ready and she looks nice. ITs a compliment telling her she looks nice, but the fact you made it seem like she doens't always will drive her nuts. It sounds strange, but if you give them what they want, they walk all over you. Make her chase you.

let's tag team , i got a 8am class you can always tell whose really hot because they just rolled outta bed!!! :D :thumup:

serious note - that's very good advice from alwaysgrowing. Chris, daddy's litttle girls grow up into pain in the ass broads that will take and take and take.. etc. I got worked by my ex when we dated for almost a year, just kept giving in because I thought I loved her and vice versa. Total waste man, I lost who I was and just became as whipped as I ever will be (never , ever again). You're a smart dude and obviously the gym is paying off, make her want you brother.

[mofo]

haha I was just messin around with ya - I'm sure DNA keeps you from being irritable :kiss::bj::inlove:

lmao. i'm never irritable unless i'm pms-ing. then just give me chinese food and leave me the fuck alone.

[mofo]

I've said this before, the person who cares )or at least seems to) always has the power in the relationship.

i disagree with you here. i think the person who doesn't care much, meaning the least emotionally attached, controls the relationship. the one who cares the most always does whatever they want/need to make the other happy. if the other person doesn't give a flying fuck, they can manipulate the one who does into doing thing and thinking things they would probably not even consider if they weren't in the relationship.