Why do I miss my ex ?

[the art of war]

I don't get this - from 16 - two years ago I was on and off (off being up to half a year at times) with the same girl. We were both very similar, granted she wasn't into the negative shit I was, or training etc. But we would ride together, do all sorts of shit that I love. Regardless, she cheated time after time, we would break up and get back later. Then randomly I'll miss the hell out of her - just missing the good times ? I don't have any problem finding girls, we just got a long so perfect WHEN things were good.

[Mr I]

she had something you wanted, her loyalty and men love to chase what they can't have. Fuck her, move on

[Shibby]

Because you loved her and she was your best friend. If it wasn't for the social development of sex being a possession, you two would still be hanging out every day.

[Mr I]

I'm pretty sure even those cavement were none too happy about other guys fucking the same chick shibbs but its still a good point

[the art of war]

I don't know if I loved her bro, I dunno what being in love is all about - maybe that was it - but the whole cheating thing, I ended up drawing a line with that. And once in awhile it just hits me, those good times, it's just like drugs I guess.

[alwaysgrowing]

It is a victory/game playing issue. I sense you may be somewhat like me. You prefer to win/control a situation. By control, I do not mean tell someone what to do. I mean you know how to get the reaction/behavior without actually being controlling. When you can't predict someone's behavior, you feel like you are losing. So you go back after her. But once you gain control of her predictablity, you most likely lose interest.

[alwaysgrowing]

and when you said miss you ex, i thought this was going to be a joke about missing her with your car

[the art of war]

LOL @ car - I'm not sure alwaysgrow - for real bro, she had me since 8th grade we went to college local enough that even then we would be together on and off - but I only ended it twice. I think it's just being a faggot emo about it all, and remembering that we had a legit connection WHEN it was good. And now (not that im complaining too much) but while there are a few girls that are close, nothing like that, just kinda fuck buddies.

[Shibby]

I don't know if I loved her bro, I dunno what being in love is all about - maybe that was it - but the whole cheating thing, I ended up drawing a line with that. And once in awhile it just hits me, those good times, it's just like drugs I guess.

Only you can say if you were in love with her, but you loved her. There are many ways to love someone. Her inability to be faithful to you and knowing that's what you needed in the relationship; is just a difference in what you two need to be happy individually. Maybe that would change and maybe it wouldn't. But there is an absence of trust because of dynamics at the time. Even in a best friend you have to have that trust or they wouldn't be that best friend.

Remove the scenario of her "cheating" and is there anything else you two couldn't have worked through? We are animals and the single mate scenario is not what most of us are instinctually programmed for. It is our intelligence that allows us to be mindful of the negatives to being promiscuous and being in a relationship that have two people of separate goals.

[the art of war]

fuck shib, you just made me realize I loved her. Makes more sense I guess, thx for clarifying that for me, was bothering me.

[Shibby]

fuck shib, you just made me realize I loved her. Makes more sense I guess, thx for clarifying that for me, was bothering me.

Sex confuses all emotions because as kids we were most likely told how to feel about it. These feelings are then the majority and most people just accept that "it's just the way it is" yet no one is making themselves understand "Why?" that's the way it is. Probably most everyone had certain feelings put into groups as we were being raised by people who never tried to understand their own feelings. So there are a lot of feelings in life that a lot of people have trouble dissecting or understanding, because of the inability to separate specific feelings.

[mofo]

was she unfaithful in terms of just sex or was she emotionally attached to someone else and was playing games with you? if it's neither then there is an probability of her being able to have a fully faithful relationship with you again but if she was toying with your emotion then there is no point to even consider being with her again.

to me, love is completely subjective and is simply a cluster of qualities of a relationship you expect. for me it's honesty, respect and faithfulness. then there are qualities of the other person that stem from those 3 that kind of make people stick out.

[the art of war]

was she unfaithful in terms of just sex or was she emotionally attached to someone else and was playing games with you? if it's neither then there is an probability of her being able to have a fully faithful relationship with you again but if she was toying with your emotion then there is no point to even consider being with her again.

to me, love is completely subjective and is simply a cluster of qualities of a relationship you expect. for me it's honesty, respect and faithfulness. then there are qualities of the other person that stem from those 3 that kind of make people stick out.

it was just other people, she never like cheated we'd break up and then she go out with him, wasn't like that.

[Mr I]

I'm gonna have to ask you to stop being so gay AoW otherwise when your feeling sorry and fawlawn I'm gonna have to come over and shit in your mouth sandra bullock style

[the art of war]

I'm gonna have to ask you to stop being so gay AoW otherwise when your feeling sorry and fawlawn I'm gonna have to come over and shit in your mouth sandra bullock style

I have cousins that will feed you to the fishes in the river thames nucka!!! :weights::weights: