I have weird commitment probs

[edvedr]

that's scary - like i said 2 times down that road - no more, no fucking way.


I can rattle off a list of things that most people say this makes you happy that makes you happy - do I Personally know ? Nah, if I had found it - I would never have let go of it. Being content with who I am would be a huge start, not worrying about losing my savings since finding legal work has become a nightmare (when you have a fucking 5 year blank list on an application it really doesn't help) - I don't know man, I would love to just get my hands dirty, make an honest living, eat sleep ,, juice , live. Shit if someone gave me that chance I'd take my savings and move - I'm very fed up with being here.

I've talked with my cousins and uncles / aunts in england - frankly their is not a ton out there and that sort of move would be huge and a certain risk. What do you think the you need out of life to be truly happy bro ? Seriously - this stuff has been floating in my head for a long time now.

well I found out what I personally need to be happy but i didn't figure it out till a few years ago about when I turned 30. Your 24 bud so as far as stressing over it I wouldn't. I got married when I was about your age and it was for all the wrong reason. we were divorced 4.5 years later. nothing wrong with taking time to find yourself and really get to know yourself. I know that's sounds cliche but its true. You have plenty of time to figure things out. If being a family man is for you I think you will know in your heart. If its not there is nothing wrong with that either. I have been in a hand full of serious relationships and with every one when things got tough i always thought about bailing. This shit isn't worth it etc... Not like you as far as length. I was with my ex-wife for 7.5 years but every time we fought the thought of leaving was on my mind, like it was with every other girl. I am remarried and its just not like that, and right from the start it was just different. It just felt like I was finally at home. there was never a question. Ironically it turned out to be someone I was friends with since the 6th grade. your 24, have fun with your life. i think as you get older it will become clearer for you. If you think you truly have commitment issues then you need to do some reflecting to find the root of the issue. If being in a relationship is what you want.

[the art of war]

well I found out what I personally need to be happy but i didn't figure it out till a few years ago about when I turned 30. Your 24 bud so as far as stressing over it I wouldn't. I got married when I was about your age and it was for all the wrong reason. we were divorced 4.5 years later. nothing wrong with taking time to find yourself and really get to know yourself. I know that's sounds cliche but its true. You have plenty of time to figure things out. If being a family man is for you I think you will know in your heart. If its not there is nothing wrong with that either. I have been in a hand full of serious relationships and with every one when things got tough i always thought about bailing. This shit isn't worth it etc... Not like you as far as length. I was with my ex-wife for 7.5 years but every time we fought the thought of leaving was on my mind, like it was with every other girl. I am remarried and its just not like that, and right from the start it was just different. It just felt like I was finally at home. there was never a question. Ironically it turned out to be someone I was friends with since the 6th grade. your 24, have fun with your life. i think as you get older it will become clearer for you. If you think you truly have commitment issues then you need to do some reflecting to find the root of the issue. If being in a relationship is what you want.

I'm in therapy for PTSD - and needless to say the disorder arose from trusting the wrong person - their's your answer maybe bro. Very frustrating.

[the art of war]

sorry bro i only read the first post or two but I already know what it is. You are a young man what are young men suposed to do. mate with as many bitches as we can. it simple nature. I was the same way as you but I didnt even try and have a girlfriend or any of that silly stuff. I simply wanted to concur the next bitch, that was it my whole purpose in life. find a chick make he mine then find another. but dont worrie sooner or later you will find the one. in the mean time have fun

Before the accident I was having a real golden streak brother - seriously making new friends cutting off the druggies and girls were abbundant, managed a chick from texas!! Gotta admit to deca, one of the best fucking lays of my life bro. I think I'm more concerned with the directino of life in general, and it shows in relationships.

you could always try men.

THat would make your day - but you gonna have to stick with vaseline and a pillow cover faggot.

[edvedr]

I'm in therapy for PTSD - and needless to say the disorder arose from trusting the wrong person - their's your answer maybe bro. Very frustrating.

ahh sorry to hear that, but at least your in therapy. Even still you are young and have plenty of time to sort shit out.....not that there is a time limit. good luck to you, I'm sure that is very tough.

[alwaysgrowing]

Start going straight by volunteering bro. You will be amazed what 5 hours a week at a soup kithcen or beach/road cleanup will open up for you.

[the art of war]

Start going straight by volunteering bro. You will be amazed what 5 hours a week at a soup kithcen or beach/road cleanup will open up for you.

thank you endev - and always I put in 2 hours twice a week - i know it's not a lot - it's not bragging at all, i have plenty of time to offer more - but for now it does help. Many people need help, I just have Turboo moments when somebody takes out their iphone or blackberry and is looking for his next score... that boils my blood as im making soup n sammies. Regardless life isn't fair - i will cope, i always have.

[alwaysgrowing]

thank you endev - and always I put in 2 hours twice a week - i know it's not a lot - it's not bragging at all, i have plenty of time to offer more - but for now it does help. Many people need help, I just have Turboo moments when somebody takes out their iphone or blackberry and is looking for his next score... that boils my blood as im making soup n sammies. Regardless life isn't fair - i will cope, i always have.

If you have never been popped, look up Court Appointed special advocate in your area. The second you become one, anything in your past is forgiven for the good you will do. I am cold and calculating. and some of the shit I see even pisses me off and almost melts my icy heart