Does this happen with you guys? - Dealing with Mom - Need input.

[Bouncer]

So my mom lives about 2 hours from me. Every time she calls she wants to tell me all this drama BS, its always something no matter what she has something negative to say. It has gotten to the point where when I see she is calling I get stressed out. I will be having a great day and boom talk to her for 10 minutes and I am stressed out. It has gotten to the point where I am pulling away from her. Even though I live 2 hours away I only see her maybe 4 times a year. I love her and all that and I dont want to be mean to her but fucks sake she is just a miserable old bitch these days. I refuse to let her drag me down into a shitty mood anymore.

You guys go through anything similar? How do you deal with it?

[Scrumhalf]

What is she saying? Is she bad mouthing people you know and like, or just airing her grievances about whatever she is going through?

[Bouncer]

What is she saying? Is she bad mouthing people you know and like, or just airing her grievances about whatever she is going through?

All of the above. Its constant negativity.

[Scrumhalf]

Just gotta ignore it bro. Happens all the time.

I find that my folks too get petty and bitter at a lot of stuff. People get more childish as they get into the retirement age, just petty little shit that they are complaining about, or have these little things like "I won't visit so and so, because they didn't look at me the right way the last time" or whatever. Getting old is sometimes called a second childhood and in lots of ways it's true.

I just ignore it. I am fine with everyone in my family - don't get too friendly with anyone but at the same time, don't have any cases where I would refuse to talk to anyone either. I am not going to make my folks' battles mine unless they were really done wrong. Recently, in most cases, it's the petty stuff.

[Timma]

This is why I don't talk on the phone. Before my son was born I barely talked to anyone in my family. Just here and there send a text because alot of it was negativity. Now that I have a kid my mom is doing better with being more positive, plus her and my dad just retired so that stress is gone.

I guess either have a kid or if your mom is still working make her retire.

[Bouncer]

thanks, guess its a common thing.

[Mr I]

This is kinda freaky, I just gave my mum the pre mothers day weekend call and came off the phone exactly the same as you did, feeling down. I came down stairs and told my lady the same thing, negativity!

I won't jack the thread going into detail but lets just say I'm happier the less I talk to her. Just the same as that she drags me down talking about crap that bugs me and seems to listen less and less.

[ROCKETW19]

thanks, guess its a common thing.

common for me. My mom dont talk bad about people but she loves drama. me and the wifey laugh cuz everytime we see her or talk its always some drama either stuff on the news or some one we know,lol.
my mom lives for drama.lol I just listen and carry on I dont get to into it.

[BEAST]

I can't relate to that because I rarely talk to my parents but when I do I'm in control of the conversation. You should try to change the subject when she starts talking negative.

[Mr I]

You want I wack her B?

[dna9488]

yes, deal with my grandparents and older Aunt's and Uncle's in the family. Its just not old people, its everyone.

Another thing is we're Middle Eastern, so that makes it even worse. Always gossiping and talking negatively. Eventually i don't care and just nod and agree.

[bigscott]

So my mom lives about 2 hours from me. Every time she calls she wants to tell me all this drama BS, its always something no matter what she has something negative to say. It has gotten to the point where when I see she is calling I get stressed out. I will be having a great day and boom talk to her for 10 minutes and I am stressed out. It has gotten to the point where I am pulling away from her. Even though I live 2 hours away I only see her maybe 4 times a year. I love her and all that and I dont want to be mean to her but fucks sake she is just a miserable old bitch these days. I refuse to let her drag me down into a shitty mood anymore.

You guys go through anything similar? How do you deal with it?

to be honest bro ... i can walk to my moms house but dont see or really talk to her .. get around her and my peace of shit sister and nothing but negativity spews out from them .. so i choose to no longer talk to them

[FitnessBrat]

I would make a point to change the subject EVERY single time she does it. Eventually she'll catch on, or she'll question why you're doing that. If she does, tell her the truth. Tell her it's not enjoyable for you to talk to her when all she does is complain.

[redback]

Know exactly what you mean. Just watch she doesn't make you snap and chase her out of the house because she will probably never speak to you again

[mofo]

this past year has really caused me to adopt a "i don't give a fuck" attitude because of situations that have happened (especially in the past year) within my family. it's gotten to the point where i have to force myself to talk to my parents about anything really because i avoid conversations with them. they just don't have the same mindset as myself.