cheating

[Ashop]

so if someone cheats early in a relationship does that make it better or worse than cheating later on when things are much more serious?

Either way is not good. Cut 'em loose and move on. It will happen again if you put up with it.

[Scrumhalf]

I know this happens all the time, but what kind of juvenile retard does a grown adult need to be to cheat on their partner? I mean, don't people grow out of this shit by the time they are 14 or 15 years old?

I don't even make up shit to my wife if I am a half hour late from work, leave alone anything more serious. Do people mentally stop growing to behave like this? How do they look their partner in the eye every day while carrying on behind their back?

[jack tors]

^wtf?

ppl cheat for a number of reasons. If its early on just want to get laid, have little emotional connection to the person, and don't care about the consequences. In a long-term relations ppl often cheat for a different reason. THey are unhappy with there current situation / partner and are filling an emotional void. Also bordum which is a bad reason to do it. The bored housewives looking for excitement. Its not about being immature.

[alwaysgrowing]

Scrum, below is an article from Newsweek. The high sensation seeking brain is not a myth. I'll see if I can pull some scientific data for you. But the adrenaline pumping, new experience seeking brain can be a huge driver of choices. I speak from experience. I am not speaking just of cheating. There is more to the article than what I posted.

The Cheating Man’s Brain - Newsweek


Many fallen politicians fit a personality type known as a "sensation seeker," defined in the early 1970s. Sensation seekers crave novel and intense experiences more than other people do, and, as part of that, they tend to have many sexual partners. "They get a bigger kick out of things," says Marvin Zuckerman, a pioneering psychologist and author of the 2006 book "Sensation Seeking and Risky Behavior." There's chemical evidence: sensation seekers have lower levels of monoamine oxidase A, which regulates the brain's levels of dopamine, the "pleasure" neurotransmitter.

Of course, loving life isn't always a bad thing: sensation seekers are often high-energy, high-functioning people. The problem is that they never seem to get enough excitement. "Their experiences have to be either very new or very intense, or both, or else they get very restless," says Zuckerman. "When things get monotonous, they have to do something else to increase their arousal." That's the flipside of finding pleasure more pleasurable: for sensation seekers, boredom is also more boring.

Risk Rules! Sensation seekers don't just lust after things--they take them, often disregarding the risks that block their way. "When you're dealing with these high-level, in-your-face, go-for-everything guys, you're dealing with people who take a lot of risks. If that results in gains for them, they get on a roll, and pretty soon their risk management starts to fade a little," says Gladue, who is based at the University of North Texas Health Science Center. "At some point, they can't manage every aspect of their lives. They have to blow off some steam, so they say to themselves, 'this is something I'm going to do for thrills or chills or fun. It's kind of dangerous, and I'm not going to worry about it.' For politicians, that's often in their private life, where they don't have people managing them all the time. And that's where things get out of hand."

For these types, the risk itself is part of the reward.

[blm]

^Youre just trying to justify your pedophile ways.

"It's the adrenaline man, I can't help the rush I get from 10 year old girls."

[alwaysgrowing]

^Youre just trying to justify your pedophile ways.

"It's the adrenaline man, I can't help the rush I get from 10 year old girls."

:rofl::rofl: I'm a hebephile. I wait until they are 16.

[alwaysgrowing]

And with the article posted above, I am not justifying nor condemning any behavior. Just to throw some perspective into the fray.

[mofo]

scrum does make a valid point though. it's logical for me to think "hey, if i'm going to cheat on that person then why be in the relationship at all? they're obviously not making me happy and are thus driving me to cheat."

[Bouncer]

None of you workout.

[BEAST]

I train my thumbs when I play ps3 games. :weights:

[Bouncer]

I am an officer now! Learn some respect lowly soldier.

[BEAST]

I am an officer now! Learn some respect lowly soldier.

Here is your respect. :nutkick:

[dna9488]

it's logical for me to think "hey, if i'm going to cheat on that person then why be in the relationship at all? they're obviously not making me happy and are thus driving me to cheat."

THIS!

[mofo]

No really? lol....dur hur...

callate pendejo.

[alwaysgrowing]

scrum does make a valid point though. it's logical for me to think "hey, if i'm going to cheat on that person then why be in the relationship at all? they're obviously not making me happy and are thus driving me to cheat."

What if person 1, the SO, makes you happy. But there is something you want and he or she does not provide. But person 2 is wiling to provide. Then?