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For the first time ever in my life i got a girlfriend. I really love her because we've been dealing on and off for like almost 3 years before i asked her out. Now that shes my girlfriend all we do is make out and sex. When we go out we dont really talk because shes with her friends whom i'm not close with. I was just wondering if long term relationships are all about sex? How do i make it last.
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IMO, bro try to cut back on the sex man. Thats going tolead tou all wanting each other for just that, nothing more. Why not enjoy a relationship of LOVE bro. Thats something most guys were/wish they had. Cause if u just wanna have sex it takes away the magic and good thing about a relationship. Try being with her more bro and screw/tell her friends to bugg off. Be with her alone,take her out, do something romatic bro.:agree: -
I would make a continous effort to connect with her friends. Trust me if her freinds don't care for you, or could care less about you, then it will never work out. Also if you take the time to get close with her friends it will show her it is not about the physical asspect. As hard as it may be, I agree that you need cut back on the sex to make it more meaningful until the relationship is at a more comfortable stage.Comment
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how old are you? what are your goals with this relationship? there are no set rules on longevity in a relationship. good friends of my wife and i who got married the same year we did got a divorce last year after 11 years of marriage.
my advice, dont worry about it enjoy being with her now. treat her well as long as she recipricates. if its meant to last it will. but trying too hard or thinking too much will doom you for sure. give her her space and take yours when you feel you need it. and the biggest thing is trust. there must be 100% trust for a relationship to last.Comment
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Im afraid i dont want to offer any advice until i find out more personal info, age...., goals, etc...Comment
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Listen to jipped genes. He mentions several excellent points.Comment
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At first, in a new relaionship, all you do is "make out and have sex". My boy complains, after a year of going out, that I dont give him enough sex and that is the biggest problem we have. I like sex, but dont need it everyday and he does.
You have to be friends with her friends, it is just respectful and makes you look good. Make an effort.
You also need to find things to do that you both are interested in doing together, so that all the emphasis is away from sex all some of the time.Comment
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If you are looking for this relationship to last, you need to become best friends with her. Having her friends like you is important but you and her need to want to be together at the non sex times.
I have been married almost 8 years and i think the most important things are for you guys to be best buds. after several years of marriage, the sex part is way down the priority list.
Dont get me wrong, wreck that pussy every chance you can, but make sure that you guys are doing the things that make friendships grow. In 10 years you will still be able to get laid whenever, but you wont be able to live with your best friend unless you start working on it now.Comment
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actually I agree with tinfish. are you in college? your story sounds like a college relationship. just try and bring more alonetime but not somewhere where you can have sex. that way you have to talk and spend time together.Comment
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