Family issue, need advices

[Mr I]

So the lady comes home all upset, I'm like whats up? She says I :)can't talk to you about it because it's my family and you'll react in defence of me but be horrible about my family then I'll fall out and resent you for being horrid bout my family.

I can't honestly say I won't react, how to deal? She's upset

[FitnessBrat]

And that's it for information?

Sounds like your only solution is to tell her you're there to listen with an open mind because you want to help her feel better, regardless of cause. You can't know in advance how you're going to react inside, but you can promise her and you that you'll stay cool and not be judgmental. Hopefully it's just (term used loosely) a matter of hurt feelings, and not anything too major.

[Mr I]

Good advice fb

[Juiced1]

Tell her it's her family and she can deal with it, you'll stay out of it unless she asks you to get involved.

[BEAST]

So the lady comes home all upset, I'm like whats up? She says I :)can't talk to you about it because it's my family and you'll react in defence of me but be horrible about my family then I'll fall out and resent you for being horrid bout my family.

I can't honestly say I won't react, how to deal? She's upset

You did your part and asked her what was bothering her. After her answer, I'd open a cold one, turn the tv on on enjoy the rest of my night. :D

[cedubb02]

I agree with fitness brat. Im married and have been in the same situation as you. I sware my wife has told me the same thing in tears. Sit her down rub her back and tell her exactly what fitness brat said.

Now as for you, it may piss you off to the highest power whatever it is she tells you but (from experience) give her advice on whatever the situation is and let her handle it. Dont say anything to the third partie(s) invloved. Unless its something way out of control......

[Bouncer]

Tell her good idea, your not interested anyway.

[GrowthMan]

I would try and involve myself as least possible. Haha who am I kidding, I'm divorce bound dont listen to me.

[ROCKETW19]

I would try and involve myself as least possible. Haha who am I kidding, I'm divorce bound dont listen to me.

lol, but still good advice

[FitnessBrat]

You did your part and asked her what was bothering her. After her answer, I'd open a cold one, turn the tv on on enjoy the rest of my night. :D

This makes me laugh because it seems so contrary to your nice guy personality :agree:

[Mr I]

So her sister is getting married and her daddy is gonna buy sisters wedding dress. When we got married he never paid a penny towards anything, and when I asked for her hand in marriage he said fine but he wouldn't pay anything. She's the eldest daughter and says he didn't give her the same as other sisters attention and hardly answers her calls and stuff.

[Turbo3000]

So her sister is getting married and her daddy is gonna buy sisters wedding dress. When we got married he never paid a penny towards anything, and when I asked for her hand in marriage he said fine but he wouldn't pay anything. She's the eldest daughter and says he didn't give her the same as other sisters attention and hardly answers her calls and stuff.

If I were you: I would just offer my wife condolences and let her know that I agree her father does some shitty stuff.

If I were her: I would pretty much stop calling my father if he didn't want to answer. Writing off family is hard, but sometimes it is needed. I would still be cordial in person and go to family functions, but really wouldn't invest a lot of time or emotion into someone that isn't reciprocating.

[auri]

Subscribe him to a host of gay bondage magazines. Tell the publisher to not wrap them before shipping.

Start sending sex toys and gimp suits to his house, and sign all gift cards with "Cliff". Or maybe "Master".

[Bouncer]

So her sister is getting married and her daddy is gonna buy sisters wedding dress. When we got married he never paid a penny towards anything, and when I asked for her hand in marriage he said fine but he wouldn't pay anything. She's the eldest daughter and says he didn't give her the same as other sisters attention and hardly answers her calls and stuff.

1 of 2 options. the father doesn't like you very much or your wife isn't the favorite daughter. do you rant on about your political crap around him? :hibb: