The time has come

[Mr I]

^ That's a tough one, my dad was so scary sometimes I was glad my parents split as a kid. But the hell that ensued after he went was worse.

The effect divorce has on kids is no joke at all and I believe I would be hard pressed to leave if I had kids of under 16.

And Bouncer, knowing you, if you had a son for example and weren't happy in a current relationship with the mother I could not see you being happy at the prospect of another guy becoming the kids parent

[Bouncer]

Good points.

I just know that staying together just to avoid potential challenges and roadblocks isn't right either.

[Chadd77]

I could be in the worst marriage ever and I would not get a divorce. The thought of not seeing my little girl everyday would kill me. She makes me so happy it's unreal. Not saying that's the same for everyone. By the way, I'm not in a bad marriage. I'm very fortunate to be blessed with the wife I have. She's amazing.

[TKD]

Divorce will always be financially difficult no matter what. What's in front of you may seem easier but it's really just a trade off for any other financial benefit or difficulty.

[Bouncer]

I could be in the worst marriage ever and I would not get a divorce. The thought of not seeing my little girl everyday would kill me. She makes me so happy it's unreal. Not saying that's the same for everyone. By the way, I'm not in a bad marriage. I'm very fortunate to be blessed with the wife I have. She's amazing.

Those last few sentences read like an apology towards the wife in case she's reading. :cheese:

[rado]

Just saw this...well you did what's right for the current situation. Unfortunately some will suffer from this, but time heals.

I've been there done that and you just try not to repeat :)

[Chadd77]

Those last few sentences read like an apology towards the wife in case she's reading. :cheese:

Haha! Wife doesn't know about this shit site! :)

[FitnessBrat]

From a child perspective I think doing it before they can remember is better than waiting if it's going to happen anyways. My parents divorced when I was 3. It's all I know and don't think anything of it. The only hard times was that my dad was military so we moved ab lot and only saw my mom on holidays. My brother was 5 when they divorced and it affected him a bit and his behavior for a few years or more.

I totally agree with this. My parents divorced by the time I was two, so I never felt any of those effects. My mother remarried a man that become a wonderful stepfather to me. My stepfather was also in the military, so I didn't see my biological father that much, but when I did it was really just an extra person that loved me as well.

On the flipside, my daughter was 11 when I left my ex-husband. That is probably the absolute worst age, but we all managed to get through it.

all details that you wont remember in the future. what your saying is your locked together financially. it's an excuse bro. i understand it but it's an excuse to keep things easy and comfortable. she will be a better person and so will you after it's all said and done. A little struggle can be a very good thing. She will be all the more proud of herself putting herself through school if she has to work for it.

Speaking from experience, I have to say there is some truth to this. I was terrified to leave my ex because it was all I had known, and HOW ON EARTH WOULD I BE ABLE TO AFFORD TO LIVE?! It's amazing how things just work out. I lived with my parents until I could get on my feet, and then proceeded to put myself through nursing school as a single mom. So yeah, I'm certainly proud of that, as you have said.

I could be in the worst marriage ever and I would not get a divorce. The thought of not seeing my little girl everyday would kill me. She makes me so happy it's unreal. Not saying that's the same for everyone. By the way, I'm not in a bad marriage. I'm very fortunate to be blessed with the wife I have. She's amazing.

I think this is a hell of a lot easier said coming from someone in a happy marriage....

[BEAST]

I could be in the worst marriage ever and I would not get a divorce.

Lol comes from a person that obviously doesn't know what the worst marriage is. When you wake up to sound of the mattress being stabbed with a butcher knife inches from your body or getting pepper sprayed while talking to your buddies at work would make you dump that bitch in a heart beat. Don't care how much you love your kid.

[blm]

^ Christ man, is that a personal experience?

[BEAST]

^ Christ man, is that a personal experience?

Yes sir.

[blm]

Understandable. Lol

[Bouncer]

Lol comes from a person that obviously doesn't know what the worst marriage is. When you wake up to sound of the mattress being stabbed with a butcher knife inches from your body or getting pepper sprayed while talking to your buddies at work would make you dump that bitch in a heart beat. Don't care how much you love your kid.

:rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl::rofl:

[BEAST]

I wasn't kidding when I said she became a demon. :grin:

[Bouncer]

What do you think happened beast? In all honesty did you change at all to make her that way? Do you think you could have done anything differently?

It's just strange because from what I know of you, you are the most calm and relaxed fella on the planet. I can't imagine what the hell you could have done.

If you didn't do anything what the hell could have done this? Some kind of hormonal change after the baby? Is this common? Fuck.