When do you turn away?

[Bama]

What's going on? I'm rather new here, but look to be a part if this community for a long time. Ok, my title to this has to do with friends/family that are addicted to dope, trying to beat it. I myself was on meth for 17 years, 17 years of pure HELL!!!!! I know what it takes and I know what it don't take. Well, this past few weeks a good friend of mine who has been battling heroin abuse reached back out to me and he seemed to be doing well, he was back living with his grandma and looks to be doing well. So, I offered him a job with me to help him on his journey to getting better, he worked all week and was doing good. So, I looked at him last weekend and said okay, it's time for you to gain some trust back, so I gave him my keys to my work truck, and told him to drive it to his grandma house and stay there til I come get him Monday morning. Come Monday morning, he wasn't answering my text it calls, so I called his grandma, and she said he left coming to my house late Saturday night!!! I finally get a hold of him and he runs me around everywhere supposed to be giving me my truck, but when I would get to a place he would not be there. Thank God, a lady called about a suspicious person in her neighborhood about an hour away from my house Monday afternoon, and the police ended up calling me to come get my truck!!! Yea, it's been a fucked up week due to that. My question for feedback, is " When do we turn our back?" I do believe it's time for me and his grandma to turn our back and allow him to see he has NOBODY. I remember when I was out there doing the same shit, I would call my mom and she would hang up on me, I would go to her house, and she would not let me in. This is what he needs. The thing I struggle with is if your my friend I'm there til death, but I believe I am enabling him letting him come back into my life, and after the shit he just pulled shows me he don't care about anything but himself. Sorry for the rambling just looking for others insight, wisdom, feedback, thanks guys/gals, have a great day. He needs a real good ass whipping I will end with that.

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[Bouncer]

the second you gave him any sort of trust/responsibility he took advantage of the situation and used you. that tells me he is nowhere near "getting better". you can only do so much, if someone is determined to get high and fuck their life up there is nothing you can do.

it's not so much turning your back on someone. it's more about taking care of yourself and living your life. you can't help that fuckup so don't let it effect you, dont lose sleep over a person like that. you gotta live life for you.

he will either hit rock bottom and keel over or he will stand the fuck up and say enough is enough and turn his life around. you need to let him do that for himself. either way, it's his responsibility bro, not yours. you should have zero guilt. you gave him a chance and he immediately fucked you over, nothing else you can do.

[Bama]

the second you gave him any sort of trust/responsibility he took advantage of the situation and used you. that tells me he is nowhere near "getting better". you can only do so much, if someone is determined to get high and fuck their life up there is nothing you can do.

it's not so much turning your back on someone. it's more about taking care of yourself and living your life. you can't help that fuckup so don't let it effect you, dont lose sleep over a person like that. you gotta live life for you.

he will either hit rock bottom and keel over or he will stand the fuck up and say enough is enough and turn his life around. you need to let him do that for himself. either way, it's his responsibility bro, not yours. you should have zero guilt. you gave him a chance and he immediately fucked you over, nothing else you can do.

Thanks Bouncer, because I have had some guilt in my mind, your right, he is his own and I'm my own. Thanks big man

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[Bouncer]

you tried bro. not like you told him to fuck off. you tried and he basically told you to fuck off by his actions.

so yea, you should absolutely feel no guilt. you threw him a lifeline and he chose to throw it back in your face.

[Bama]

you tried bro. not like you told him to fuck off. you tried and he basically told you to fuck off by his actions.

so yea, you should absolutely feel no guilt. you threw him a lifeline and he chose to throw it back in your face.

Yea, we been friends for 8 years. He made a choice, I know he was high on heroin, but he made a free moral choice to do what he did. Thanks

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