Those of you who have kids or can help

[Puddles]

When he starts with the questions, tell him it's quiet time and he can ask questions tomorrow. And like others have said, be firm but loving and stick to your guns. When he gets up in the middle of the night tell him to go back to bed immediately or he will loose a privledge the next day. At 2 1/2 he is learning the consequences of his actions and you really need to be firm or else he's gonna quickly learn how to take advantage and get over on you. Also, if he's not tired, he's not going to want to go to sleep...you may need to put him to bed a little later if it takes him a long time to fall asleep.

[urso8up]

Originally posted by ugetsum
I agree that staying consistent is the key. I have a 10yr. old and a 20mo. old. Another thing that helps is I make sure they play hard when we get home to wear them out and then a nice warm bath to help them relax. They're normally asleep within 5min. Good luck!

I tried the palying hard thing but the kid just keeps going snd going snd going It's like he never runs out of energy

[urso8up]

Originally posted by Auriflex
I would just threaten him with violence. This could be why my daughter ignores me though - so use at your own discretion.

Thanks auri for your wisdom. I will try it

[urso8up]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
When he starts with the questions, tell him it's quiet time and he can ask questions tomorrow. And like others have said, be firm but loving and stick to your guns. When he gets up in the middle of the night tell him to go back to bed immediately or he will loose a privledge the next day. At 2 1/2 he is learning the consequences of his actions and you really need to be firm or else he's gonna quickly learn how to take advantage and get over on you. Also, if he's not tired, he's not going to want to go to sleep...you may need to put him to bed a little later if it takes him a long time to fall asleep.

I tried the go back to bed thing in the middle of the night and he goes back for a few and comes back and i am so tired i give in. I know my fault there. But he goes to be now between 9:00-9:30

[anatole]

I lived that with my 2 daughters:
> Be consistent (sleep in YOUR bed)
> treat her kindly, explain and explain again; Dont yell. It will take a few days or weeks, but in the long run it will pay
> Consider that she may be afraid of sometthing. We used a dim light in her bedroom and it was OK.
I am pretty sure that one reason for her coming is to make sure that youare there.

[dreamgirl]

eva is now 3-1/2 and she still has a hard time some nights staying in bed. We will threaten taking something away (ex-nightlight, teddybear....) if she gets up, we take it away... she will cry and in about 3 minutes we'll give her 1 more chance... with her that's all it takes.

[urso8up]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
eva is now 3-1/2 and she still has a hard time some nights staying in bed. We will threaten taking something away (ex-nightlight, teddybear....) if she gets up, we take it away... she will cry and in about 3 minutes we'll give her 1 more chance... with her that's all it takes.

Thanks for the info
I tried with Cole To take his Tv away or to turn it off or even shut his door. But like you said if you do it He cries and screams and then either turns it on or comes in to our room. I need to fix this soon so he will be used to his own room Befor the new baby arrives in May

[dreamgirl]

I would ecommend taking something that affects him immediately, like a nightlight or a favorite blankie. kids at 2 understand immediate consequences better.

[urso8up]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
I would ecommend taking something that affects him immediately, like a nightlight or a favorite blankie. kids at 2 understand immediate consequences better.

That is a great idea he loves this Stuffed bird he has had since Birth. That I will try tonight

[Puddles]

Originally posted by urso8up
Thanks for the info
I tried with Cole To take his Tv away or to turn it off or even shut his door. But like you said if you do it He cries and screams and then either turns it on or comes in to our room. I need to fix this soon so he will be used to his own room Befor the new baby arrives in May

He has to learn that coming out of his room at night is not an option. There are devices you can place on door knobs that make it impossible for little children to open. You could also try locking your bedroom door so that he can't get in there.


* Side note to sleeping with doors open...according to the fire department, all bedroom doors should be kept closed at night in case of a fire. If the doors are closed and a fire breaks out, closed doors will prevent the smoke from entering the bedroom and killing you while you're sleeping. Smoke detectors should be in the hall and sound off waking you before it's too late. Also, all bedrooms should have smoke detectors in them. If there is a fire you should feel the door, not the door knob, for heat before opening the door. If it's hot, the fire is right outside the door. If you feel the door knob instead of the door itself, you risk burning your hand.

[dreamgirl]

Originally posted by urso8up
That is a great idea he loves this Stuffed bird he has had since Birth. That I will try tonight

He'll be REALLY upset... wait about 3 minutes, then go talk to him and bring it in... tell him he can have it back but has to stay in bed or he will loose it until tomorrow morning.

But then make sure you stick to your guns... that's the hardest part of being a parent!

[urso8up]

Originally posted by dreamgirl

But then make sure you stick to your guns... that's the hardest part of being a parent!

Oh yes it is. He is so cute at times you just can't punish him. You know what i mean

[urso8up]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
He has to learn that coming out of his room at night is not an option. There are devices you can place on door knobs that make it impossible for little children to open. You could also try locking your bedroom door so that he can't get in there.


* Side note to sleeping with doors open...according to the fire department, all bedroom doors should be kept closed at night in case of a fire. If the doors are closed and a fire breaks out, closed doors will prevent the smoke from entering the bedroom and killing you while you're sleeping. Smoke detectors should be in the hall and sound off waking you before it's too late. Also, all bedrooms should have smoke detectors in them. If there is a fire you should feel the door, not the door knob, for heat before opening the door. If it's hot, the fire is right outside the door. If you feel the door knob instead of the door itself, you risk burning your hand.

I was going to try looking our door But i kinda felt like a mean person looking him out.
But if it comes down to it I will have to do it

[RebelAngel]

My daughter was that way when she was little. dunno what to tell you to do except insist, if she wakes you up getting into your bed, walk her back to bed. remind her that she is a big girl now with her own room. Try to make some bedtime ritual and make her room something 'special' to sleep in. Thats what I did with my daughter, but basically its ingrained into her head now anyways... she would sleep with me now if i let her and she is 15!!!

Good luck!

[Auriflex]

Oh, I have a new approach.

When this issue comes up, start frothing at the mouth and flail your arms in bed, like a seizure victim - then when the child cries and looks to you for answers - calm down and tell them that if they sleep in your bed, you might die. Say "I must be allergic to you."

The child will obviously go to their own bed in order to keep the parent from dying.

If this doesn't work - sleep in someone elses bed. In a different house. And don't come home for a week. That's called 'Tough Love'. Or abuse. I get them confused.