SO, I'm REALLY fucking pissed off @ my g/f

[Trojanmn2]

DAMMIT I love the hell outta Linkin Park, Hoobastank, P.O.D. and this new punk band Story of the Year, and they're playing at sold out concerts around the U.S. And Linkin Park is my fucking favorite, now we didn't talk all day tuesday right? I was gonna invite her to the concert, and she tells me some friends we know already invited her. She doesn't invite me because she doesn't want to look like she's being in the way or some shit, or she's embarrassed to make problems by asking if I want to come along. But she knew I wanted to go so badly dammit. lol I'm laughing because I'm so jealous that I want to see these guys for the first time......

Man i'm pissed, geez. I want to go, but I'm not going to invite my damn self, hell no, I don't even want them to have pity on me, I hate that. It'll pass, I know but god......man am I gonna miss out. I can still buy tickets......but they're almost sold the fuck out....and its 2 months from now.

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[urso8up]

If you wanna go theni say fuck it and go who cares I would invite myself if it was something i really wanted to see

[Trojanmn2]

hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I'm thinking of that shit, I don't want to fucking beat around the bush.

[Shibby]

How long you been with your girl?

[Trojanmn2]

heheh 7 months? It probably looks like i'm overexaggerating my pissed off mood, I'm okay with it, But I just want to go too!

[Shibby]

Not really so much of an exageration. Most relationships at this point are thought of being you if you have one you have the other. You said it was some of both your friends. Well most people looking at your relationship would figure if one is going the other is. I would wonder why your not going because it would probably be assumed. Just a little ramble if you can follow it.

[Trojanmn2]

Yea, I thought about that too. Its happened before, that we were invited, and she would say I'm going to this, or going to that, and then I she asks if I was going, and I'm waiting for a confirmations of "us" or words of "we" like we're doing this. She's very unclear with those those types of situations. Like the New Years Party was an example. She is so adament of being a person who gets in the way and she doesn't want to cause problems, she's learned lessons that if this went wrong because this caused it, it will always be like that, I look at it from another point of view that not all cases will come out to the scenario, you guys know what I mean? Like for ex: She invited a friend in something similar to this to an outing with other friends, and I suppose they had problems with my g/f inviting another friend. So she now thinks that you're not supposed to do that or people will always feel like that all the time when another party is brought along. So she doesn't like doing stuff like that again and believes the same outcome will repeat itself. So, oh well, I'm okay, I don't know if I can say she's not being courteous or thoughtful or I'm just being selfish.

[Hollywood]

Why does she think she would get in the way by bringing you? If I was in that situation and I was her, I'd either have you come with or not go at all, especially since you want to see it so badly. Seems a little selfish of her to me, knowing how much you want to see the concert.

[trip]

tj2,

Very insightful assesment of situation and even your own feelings about it.

She probably thinks, kind of like you say, she's being courteous to others, ie, not instrusive as to what's what, figuring they have whole thing all planned out, etc.

She probably feels more awkward having to explain it to you.

Be kind and compassionate and it will probably work out.

Although, it is kind of irritating cause it is a very different way of thinking.

Good Luck

[Shibby]

Her friends should know that you are pretty much of a combined package. So when they invited her it probably was stated (or should have been) wheather it was just her included or both of you since you have to have sold out tickets. It's not like going to a party or bar.

[Shibby]

Oh I just wanted to add that I'm not trying to insitgate. I have a personal issue with what this sounds like. If things are cool with you I would just ignore what I have said.

[Trojanmn2]

Well, also I thought about our time together and how long we have been with each other. For the time right now, I stated to her my feelings when she told me her plans. She apologized, and said "You know how I feel about these things" One thing I do know about her is that she acts as she does not want to be committed to things like expectation in a relationship. As time goes on with people, expection/requirements are hard to sometimes know the difference in. Even though I would like to go, one thing I failed to mention is that we're taking things a little slower as she wants and claims to need it. Maybe she doesn't want me along and this is a way showing independence? I'm not jealous of the fact she's going with those friends, not AT all. I'm just a little dissapointed with knowing this. If for one would have tried to get her to come along if I was in her position, or not @ all as Hollywood puts it. I don't think I should say, "well I wouldn't do that to you" or "I would do it this way" in trying to make her do things my way. See, these requirements and commitments and expections can really get confusing if not properly sorted out and could lead to doubts and worries if they're not fulfilled. Being that as it may, in all honestly, I wish she invited me along, if she thinks more of their feelings and expects me to understand, I confuses me to WHAT is more important to her.

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by Shibby
Oh I just wanted to add that I'm not trying to insitgate. I have a personal issue with what this sounds like. If things are cool with you I would just ignore what I have said.

lol don't bother with instigating, I'm open to all opinions and sides. Thanks you guys

[Shibby]

Ahh well seeing that she wants a little space then your doing a great thing. It will show her how much you respect and are willing to do what's needed for "yall" by missing something that she knows you want so bad.

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by Shibby
Ahh well seeing that she wants a little space then your doing a great thing. It will show her how much you respect and are willing to do what's needed for "yall" by missing something that she knows you want so bad.

Yea i guess. FUck I wanna go. We've been doing this for about 2 weeks now, and shit I don't know when exactly when this will be over, who knows, nobody ever does. I'm being a little optomistic that by that time, things will be great and still being able to go that concert would be perfect. I'll tell what I'm honestly feeling from the entire thing.