SO, I'm REALLY fucking pissed off @ my g/f

[telephone]

buy 2 tickets and invite her to go with you..at this point in your relationship(7 mon.) she should go with you and both of you hook up with her friends at concert..then you didnt invite yourself to do shit..you made your own way..

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by telephone
buy 2 tickets and invite her to go with you..at this point in your relationship(7 mon.) she should go with you and both of you hook up with her friends at concert..then you didnt invite yourself to do shit..you made your own way..

Problem there is, that her friend bought her ticket already. Still hasn't come in yet.

[telephone]

damn..ok, tell your girls friend to scalp it before goin in..no loss and your girls is with you..

[BeastLt12]

?? i dont get it, just take one of your bro's and go separately. DO tell her you're going but dont make an effort to find her, and if you do see her dont hang out all night. just dont hide it, she'll think you're a stalker

[Trojanmn2]

Yea i fucked up peoples, I asked her about just now, and things didn't go too well. I asked her if she wanted me to go or not to this? and she defended her point of not wanting to cause problems for the rest of people because one time that a person was invited and he wasn't very liked it didn't go to well. But the thing is that she wasn't very clear that it was THEIR thing or whatnot. We're friends with them but I dont' understand her fear of a problem starting. I know I'm not wrong for how I'm feeling, but I know bringing that up would make her feel guilty and now she is. Shit, and now I just added pressure to her and this relationship. Well now, this sucks, I blew that one up because I was being selfish for a damn concert that I wanted to go to. I know how she feels, but in fact does she know how I feel about it. I don't want to tell her what to do, and I'm not going to but I think the added pressure that is on her now, is making her confused and more irritated because she's hard on herself for making decisions like that.

One thing I don't get it is when I was going to invite her, she said she was invited with the other friends, and no compromise was made, nothing was said from her that she wanted me along.......sooooooo FUCK RELATIONSHIPS, sorry I had to get that out.

[njjuicer]

jsut go and dont give a shit abotut hem u wanan see them bands real bad so hwo fuck ur girl gonan stop u form goin u dont gotta hold her fuckin ahnd !!1

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by njjuicer
jsut go and dont give a shit abotut hem u wanan see them bands real bad so hwo fuck ur girl gonan stop u form goin u dont gotta hold her fuckin ahnd !!1

lol Yea I know man, seriously though, the fuck am I worrying about it for. It tooke 20 posts and an arguement in my head and with my g/f to get through this bullshit

[njjuicer]

it have taken me on thoguht and me saying fuck u bitch LOL

[telephone]

trojan if you go seperate see her but dont let her see you..i got a feelin theres another dude involved in this situation..

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by telephone
trojan if you go seperate see her but dont let her see you..i got a feelin theres another dude involved in this situation..

nah thanks for your insight dogg, but its not like that at all.

[skoowat]

first, i wanna say, just because you are couple doesn't mean people are gonna assume you two always go everywhere together. i'm sorry to disagree with so many people, but girls do "girl only groups" just like guys like to go out with their buddies and sometimes a girl would cramp your style right? not cause you're own picking up other women - but just cause it changes the chemistry to have a sig other along, or even someone of the opposite sex.

i don't think that necessarily ends or should end no matter HOW long you've been together. it's good to have lives outside each others. it gives you energy and experiences and interests to bring back to the relationship and keep it interesting and fun and exciting. believe me, too much togetherness = stale, stale, stale.

it probably would have been nice, if she knew you were totally into this band and would want to see it, to politely abstain from her friends invitation and then let you know the band was coming and make arrangements to go with you. so maybe she made an error of judgement there, or maybe she just didn't care enough, that's the big question to me. everyone makes mistakes especially when they are trying to make everyone happy or just accidentally do something thoughtless, or theres is a third factor - like someone said, maybe she wants/needs some space.

i would look at this in the context of everything else that goes on in your relatinoship. is she generally caring and sensitive to you, or is she mostly often selfish? that's how i would get a reading on this event.

if you can stil get tickets, get'm and go with some of YOUR friends!!!

[Trojanmn2]

Originally posted by skoowat
first, i wanna say, just because you are couple doesn't mean people are gonna assume you two always go everywhere together. i'm sorry to disagree with so many people, but girls do "girl only groups" just like guys like to go out with their buddies and sometimes a girl would cramp your style right? not cause you're own picking up other women - but just cause it changes the chemistry to have a sig other along, or even someone of the opposite sex.

i don't think that necessarily ends or should end no matter HOW long you've been together. it's good to have lives outside each others. it gives you energy and experiences and interests to bring back to the relationship and keep it interesting and fun and exciting. believe me, too much togetherness = stale, stale, stale.

it probably would have been nice, if she knew you were totally into this band and would want to see it, to politely abstain from her friends invitation and then let you know the band was coming and make arrangements to go with you. so maybe she made an error of judgement there, or maybe she just didn't care enough, that's the big question to me. everyone makes mistakes especially when they are trying to make everyone happy or just accidentally do something thoughtless, or theres is a third factor - like someone said, maybe she wants/needs some space.

i would look at this in the context of everything else that goes on in your relatinoship. is she generally caring and sensitive to you, or is she mostly often selfish? that's how i would get a reading on this event.

if you can stil get tickets, get'm and go with some of YOUR friends!!!

You know, in all honestly, I like this answer the most because I try to think about everything positively. This answer is the best bet to solve my frustrations that I have because it has understanding point of view.

Thanks man, I appreciate your response

[bmf2]

Go get your ticket and have a great time.... :)


Just curious... after being together for 7 months she doesn't know that this is your favorite band???

[Shibby]

Originally posted by Trojanmn2
and she defended her point of not wanting to cause problems for the rest of people because one time that a person was invited and he wasn't very liked it didn't go to well.

Ok this is the part that caught my attention. If a girl is invited somewhere by male or female and brings a guy that's not family, no one likes it. EVER. But guys can always bring as many girls with guys, but you have to be careful when other girls are there to be terratorial.