What's the one thing you miss because your married?

[dreamgirl]

Hi, I just wondered if I was the only one thinking like this. I really miss that excitement of meeting someone out and lightly messing around. Not full blown intercourse, but you know... Is this a general consensous? Or am I alone on this?

[JUICE]

im not married yet but i do wanna get married soon with my girl. Its just something new I want to be with someone.:D

[Tinfish]

The thing i miss the most because i am married is having the entire bed to myself. I have always been a light sleeper and i wake up so many times through the night because the wifey is bumps me or something. Being single and having the bed to myself is something i miss.

[The_Jarhead]

I really can't think of anything I miss about being single.
But then again my wife and I have a very strong and open relationship where if we have wants and needs we discuss them and sometimes try them out.

[batteryreqd]

Yeah, I kinda do in a way. Was fun fooling around with different women. I certainly had my fun when I was single that is for sure. Some was just teasing each other all the way up to going all out if we got to worked up...lol.

[jipped genes]

i miss not being owned and controlled and ordered to clean the toilet with my own toothbrush or my wife gets mad and ties me up in a closet.

or i miss dating. its a tossup

[edvedr]

I MISS NOTHING

[dreamgirl]

Re: Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by FitnessBrat
Do you like the 'newness' of it, the attention, or just the fooling around part?

I think that I used to get a big power trip being able to just walk up to the chosen one for that night and his reaction to me and the sexual energy. It's like nothing that I get now. It's that feeling of being wanted, a pure sexual attraction. I am very attracted to my husband it's just he doesn't act like that at all anymore, he says that he feels that way... that's what I miss

does that make any sense?

[Morgan]

Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by dreamgirl
Hi, I just wondered if I was the only one thinking like this. I really miss that excitement of meeting someone out and lightly messing around. Not full blown intercourse, but you know... Is this a general consensous? Or am I alone on this?

What I miss most is the "discovery" of the other person; their likes, dislikes, how they kiss, touch. I don't know for myself whether I could separate the physical from the mental, both are very powerful attractions, put together they can be a REAL problem for those who want to remain faithful to someone.

Not at all unusual, most times it seems that you and the other person for a little while only focus on each other, to the exclusion of everything else around you. Being the center of someone's universe is extremely sensual; both physically and mentally.

[dreamgirl]

morgan you make a great case!

[dreamgirl]

Re: Re: Re: Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by Keiser
You miss passion....

Now that I think about it, you are 100% right. It's kind of sad, but I don't have any passion in my relationship... there are so many times that we are sitting watching tv and I think to myself, "why doesn't he kiss me, why doesn't he come over here and jump me right now?" maybe I'll talk to him about it. It's really been bothering me lately.

[Morgan]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
morgan you make a great case!

I will have to go and do this now as well (the go out and "discover" different women) not sure it's as fun as it sounds.

From past experiences, it can be very difficult to take a step back and think about what kind of situation you might be getting yourself into; I believe most times went things get out of hand it's from loneliness or boredom.

[goliath]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by dreamgirl
Now that I think about it, you are 100% right. It's kind of sad, but I don't have any passion in my relationship... there are so many times that we are sitting watching tv and I think to myself, "why doesn't he kiss me, why doesn't he come over here and jump me right now?" maybe I'll talk to him about it. It's really been bothering me lately.

talk is cheap. fuck his brains out.

[dreamgirl]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by goliath
talk is cheap. fuck his brains out.

my problem is, I'm always the one to start sex... he NEVER is. That's why I feel like this. -DG

[Morgan]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: What's the one thing you miss because your married?

Originally posted by dreamgirl
Now that I think about it, you are 100% right. It's kind of sad, but I don't have any passion in my relationship... there are so many times that we are sitting watching tv and I think to myself, "why doesn't he kiss me, why doesn't he come over here and jump me right now?" maybe I'll talk to him about it. It's really been bothering me lately.

Definitely talk to him. Passion is a sometimes difficult concept, I was always accused of not being spontaneous enough, that the times I was with my wife were to "planned" and not natural enough. Can be very, very difficult if both of you are working, have bills, house, blah blah. Pretty sure that your husband would jump you in a heartbeat if you gave him a few small signals in the right direction. Most guys I know, (myself included) need some heavy duty visual and perhaps physical clues at times to know when to proceed.

That may take some of the spontaneity and passion out of it on your part, but practice makes perfect and I'm sure he'd catch on pretty quick.