help- need some motivation

[ponygirl]

Hi ladies,

Just wondering if anyone is willing to share their before and after stories or pics. I got divorced a little over two years ago (partially because I lost a lot of weight and really worked out and looked good so my husband thought I was cheating on him-duh)! Anyway I hadn't been in a relationship until I started seeing this really nice guy last November. Problem is, he lives an hour and a half away so when we spend time together it's 24/7. Plus we're still in the dating stage and eat out constantly. When I was on my own I had gained back a bit of weight maybe 12 lbs or so- but since the new relationship I've gained about 17 lbs!!!! Another 25 and I'lll be back at my highest. I'm slightly panicked because none of my clothes fit and my energy level is way down. I think I'm chowing down partially out of relationship nerves- I'm terrified of getting hurt again. But I can't seem to get my butt off the couch and pick up my weights. Any nudge or stories/pics anyone would like to share would be much appreciated. I feel awful and the mirror is not my friend now-I keep mfinding new bulges-ARGGHHH!! Has anyone else been here? Help....

[Shibby]

What was your motivation at this point?

http://www.superiormuscle.com/vbulle...threadid=21139

[JUICE]

just find time for yourself. For motivation check out the members pictures section, see the results the members from here have gotten from weight training and dieting.

For me weight training isnt all about looking good but it makes me feel great inside me. It boosts my confidence big time through the roof. Right now i got 100% confidence, feel like if i can take on anything, i got so much energy.

Just take it a step at a time and u will be there in no time. Dont worry right now about relationships, worry about yourself, your goals, things like that, it will pay off in the future. Getting back on track could make u feel better on the inside too:) Just take it a day at a time.

[ponygirl]

Originally posted by Shibby
What was your motivation at this point?

http://www.superiormuscle.com/vbulle...threadid=21139

At that point, I was just focusing on myself and trying to get myself back in some kind of shape-trying to feel better about myself (for about 3 weeks). Then I met a great guy who thought I was just fine and is very attentive etc-the problem is now I don't really have time for myself and I ate my way through the holidays. Basically, I've been eating trash and sitting on my butt and can't seem to get out of my rut.

[Shibby]

You can make a choice to be on your way to

This





or This

[ponygirl]

Admittedly, I'm a bit of a derf about these things but I think there is a second pic I can't see??

[Stonecold54]

I choose the top one :D

Ponygirl tell me/us WHY you want to be in shape...what other goals do you have in your life right now. If you made a list of 3 short terms goals (2-4 months), what would they be?

[ponygirl]

Originally posted by stonecold54
I choose the top one :D

Ponygirl tell me/us WHY you want to be in shape...what other goals do you have in your life right now. If you made a list of 3 short terms goals (2-4 months), what would they be?

Actually, this one is pretty easy as I have three specific things that are pressing on me now. Identifying is easy- accomplishing now that's the hard part = )

1. Get back into some kind of shape- because I'm rapidly approaching that bottom pic blech! My self esteem is in toilet and I think I may be over eating because of nerves (see #3 LOL) None of my nice clothes fit and I've had more Mc-food lately than I care to think about. Because of the distance between me and my new guy I have a lot less time to myself than I used too and we eat out a LOT.

2. Get back into school-this one's financial- as I want to complete my business management degree in the interests of providing for my future-I don't want to have to rely on anyone else to support me -ever

3. Stop stressing myself out and commmit myself to my new relationship fully- the problem with this one is that I have to admit to being unusually attached to my ex-husband. He was my best friend forever and maybe still is, we still go to dinner and I even have a lot of stuff still at the home we shared even though it's been two years since we divorced and we're both seeing other people. I know that my new guy is more compatiable with me and we have an emotional and sexual connection that my ex and I never had (ex is kind of emotionally distant) but I have a problem letting go of the past.

I guess that's a good pic of where I am right now- the question is how do I get where I want to be from here?