Childfree by choice?

[VeggieLifterGal]

Is anyone here intentionally childless/childfree?

I have no problem with children, obviously I was one myself not too long ago (I'm only 21!) but I've felt for a long time that parenthood just isn't for me. Whenever I tell people that I intend not to have children they always insist that I'll change my mind later, or else they protest that I *have* to have kids. If I said i wanted 5, no one would say anything, but because I want 0, people find it unacceptable.

I'm interested to hear the experiences of others similarly-minded.

I notice that pretty much no parents ever say they regret having kids, but I think that's also because they don't have the balls to do so.

[MuGGsy]

I could never be a parent, there's too much shit that I've seen happen to kids first hand that I could never risk that happening to somebody that I would love as in a father - daughter/son scenario.

[telephone]

im bout to be one..some people arent meant to be parents just like i think some people are not set up to be married..i thought i was one of them..im 31 and gettin married for 1st time in mar and havin baby in oct..we not gettin married because of baby either, we been engaged 14 months..dont worry what others say veggiegal..just be you and be happy..

[psyko1]

Re: Childfree by choice?

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
I notice that pretty much no parents ever say they regret having kids, but I think that's also because they don't have the balls to do so.

i've never ever ever ever EVER wanted kids. i've never wanted to get married either. people find it strange that others don't want kids but that's only cause we as humans are programmed to reproduce. it's in our nature to spread our genes further and further. it's the way of life. but nov. of 2002 i was blessed with a perfect angel. it's not the lack of balls to say that it was a regret, but i'll say getting my ex pregnant was an accident. i don't consider my son one though. i will say that it's is the most difficult thing i've had to deal with, and there are times that i wish i had waited, but would i have had "D" be born then? i can't even consider the thought of him not being there. he's what gets me through my hardest times and he can make me laugh just being himself. you have to understand a parent can never see their children as a regret. they're much too special to us to even consider that thought.

[JUICE]

i think im parent like material, why because i work with kids and they me. Kids always love me, maybe because i get along with htem and know how to be a kid at times. They dont annoy me and all, when i wanna relax and all, all i do is go to work and hear the kids talk stories and all, thats awesome. I love kids.

[VeggieLifterGal]

bump

[goliath]

my wife and i have been together about 6 or 7 years, married for 2.5 - neither of us want kids and we are positive of that. we are both 27 and i had a vasectomy last year. the old 'get married, have kids' way of thinking is becoming out-dated. child-free by choice is becoming more and more popular and socially accepted these days...

[blm]

Originally posted by goliath
my wife and i have been together about 6 or 7 years, married for 2.5 - neither of us want kids and we are positive of that. we are both 27 and i had a vasectomy last year. the old 'get married, have kids' way of thinking is becoming out-dated. child-free by choice is becoming more and more popular and socially accepted these days...

Glad to see you're still alive.

[goliath]

Originally posted by blm
Glad to see you're still alive.

lol - yeah bro, i've been hinding out in books for a while. its crazy (as you know and i am just finding out) just how much your life changes when you go back to school full time. i don't have much time to spend on the board anymore. that's why i stepped down from the mod position - so i could be a spectator if i choose and not be 'required' to participate. i'll pop in and around from time to time thought! good to see you to my man.

shoot me a PM and let me know how things are going for you...

[blm]

Originally posted by goliath
shoot me a PM and let me know how things are going for you...

Done

[Racer814]

its up to the individual........they have brought a lot of joy into my life but cut down on my free time, but I'd give my life for them.....BTW I just posted their pics in the picture section..

[Gongshow]

I personally am really looking forward to having kids! I want at least 3

[LORDBLiTZ]

I will never have kids. I'm playa 4 life

[The_Jarhead]

I'm kind of in your boat. I have little girl who is 6, she lives with her mom adn I see her every few weeks. I love her to death and would never want any thing to happen to her, BUT if I could roll back time and she never was I would. I don't think that makes me a bad person. I still love her and spend all the time I can with her. Hell during soccer season I drive 2 hours each way ever Saturday just to watch her games. I've never missed one.
Now my Wife and I agree we are never going to have kids. When we first got married we thought we would but we realized we just aren't kid people. She's 28 and I'll be 29 at the end of march and our no kidd stance gets stronger as time goes on. And yes we hear the same things you do about changing our mind and having them later. maybe so but I don't see it happening. I also get alot of grief from my dad since out of his 11 child famliy (5 brothers and 5 sister) I'm the only grand son who still carries the name sake. All of his brothers have girls and all his sisters have the boys.

Anyway VLG just do what makes you happy and to hell what everyone else thinks. Life is easier when you aren't trying to please everyone. Just have fun......

[Puddles]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
Anyway VLG just do what makes you happy and to hell what everyone else thinks. Life is easier when you aren't trying to please everyone. Just have fun......

Exactly!

Being a parent is a huge responsibility, a lifelong responsibility. It's just not for everyone. You gotta do what's right for you!