Childfree by choice?

[JUICE]

Originally posted by Gongshow
I personally am really looking forward to having kids! I want at least 3

same here.:agree:

[VeggieLifterGal]

Thanks for the honest and truthful replies. MrsP, I think I would be a much happier person without the responsibility of parenthood.

Even though I don't see myself being a mom, I do look forward to helping my sister and boyfriend's sisters and cousins and friends when they have children. I'll be the cool aunt that takes the kids to do the fun stuff - ice cream, the beach, hiking, movies, all that - and who watches them when their parents need a break. :)

For instance, my boyfriend's late uncle died in his 30s and never had any kids. But of all male relatives, I think his uncle had the most impact on him. He admired him and wanted to be just like him.

[Timber]

I have never wanted children and never had any. Been maried for 18 years now and Im in my 40s and I still feel the same way. My family is a little bent about it because I'm the last male in my line. I tell my dad that it's my life and I'm obligated to me and my wife not the family blood line.

[Puddles]

Originally posted by VeggieLifterGal
Even though I don't see myself being a mom, I do look forward to helping my sister and boyfriend's sisters and cousins and friends when they have children. I'll be the cool aunt that takes the kids to do the fun stuff - ice cream, the beach, hiking, movies, all that - and who watches them when their parents need a break. :)

That rocks! I wish I had someone like that in my family. :)

[bad14u]

I never wanted kids myself, but I am about to have one due to not using protection!!! I know...I am an idiot for that!!! The mother of the baby has told me I don't have to be involved in any way if I don't want to be, but I couldn't live with myself knowing I had a son and he didn't know his father!!! We are not getting married, but my son will know his father!!!

[dreamgirl]

VLG- parenthood isn't for everyone... I always wanted at least one child and I always thought that if I hit 30 without being married I was going to somehow get pregnant. I wanted a child more than anything else. My mom always knew that too.

I didn't have to worry, I got married at 21, 1st child at 25, 2nd due in a month!

I also see parents who to me look like they really didn't want kids and it was just the "thing to do" and they don't want to deal with their kids and are always trying to pawn them off on ANYONE. It's so sad to watch> -- only have kids if you really want them, not because anyone guilts you into it.

[muddy]

VLG- go with what makes you happy. We are the only species that can choose "self well being" over the basic instinct of reproduction.

[Bouncer]

I cant stand people that want 5-6 kids. I just dont get it. I mean do these people realize that the world is already so over crowded? I mean hell, here in NJ it takes 10 minutes to drive 1 mile. I cant imagine what it will be like in 20 years. These people just continue to pop babys out like a god damn gum ball machine. I think there should be a limit just like there is in other countries.

[Irishgirl]

I've actually been thinking about this ALOT lately! I always thought I'd want like 10 kids. I absolutely LOVE children, I think I'd make a great mom, etc. But recently I've been thinking what it would be like NOT to have them. To be able to travel, and things like that. And I guess it sounds selfish, but it would be my decision. After I'm married, if I happened to get pregant by accident, I'd count it as a blessing, but if not, I'm not positive I'd actually TRY to conceive. If my husband really wanted kids, and it was important to him, I'd definately do it, but I still haven't made up my mind yet. And I'm sure I won't until I'm in the situation. I love taking care of my niece who is 20 months, I have since she was born, and I do love kids, but right now I have absolutely no idea if I'll ever have them.

[goliath]

Originally posted by THE BOUNCER
I cant stand people that want 5-6 kids. I just dont get it. I mean do these people realize that the world is already so over crowded? I mean hell, here in NJ it takes 10 minutes to drive 1 mile. I cant imagine what it will be like in 20 years. These people just continue to pop babys out like a god damn gum ball machine. I think there should be a limit just like there is in other countries.

lol - blame it on the mexicans!

[The_Jarhead]

Originally posted by Irishgirl
But recently I've been thinking what it would be like NOT to have them. To be able to travel, and things like that. And I guess it sounds selfish, but it would be my decision.

That is how my wife and I feel. it's hard enough finding someone to watch the dog for the weekend so we can go away or stay over someone's place.

[sana]

Originally posted by THE BOUNCER
I cant stand people that want 5-6 kids.

i thought we agreed that we'd have 8? :bawl:

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
That is how my wife and I feel. it's hard enough finding someone to watch the dog for the weekend so we can go away or stay over someone's place.

I'm so glad I moved into this new place where I live with 4 guys who love my dog. I never have to worry about coming home in time to walk her or having someone to look after her if i go out for a night. Roommates rock! But yeah, I feel your pain about finding a sitter. Before here, it was hard as hell

[CiViC SpiKeS]

1-2 at the most for me...I think i definately wanna have a son tho.. Hopefully ill have one someday. Not anytime soon as im only 22!

[tigris]

I have always wanted to have kids at some point in my life. The main goal of life for any species is to reproduce. You have to keep your genes going its a part of nature. But I understand how some people would not want to have kids especially in our new age where life is so hecktic you dont have time for kids. What does your bf think about it veggiegal?