Full of stress, what would you do in my situation.

[johnstephenson]

So public transportation is out then?

[Shibby]

public trans lol, the town I go to school and work in takes about 10mins at the most to drive through. No reall demand for it :) I do like public trans though. I moved her after spending a year and half in the SF area. They have great public trans. It would be nice to have here.

[Mommie2Hottie]

Shibby, it is sooo important to take care of yourself first, as long as it is not at the expense of others. I assume that this is your first child. I guarantee you that things will NOT get any easier when the baby comes. He'll be waking up every 2-3 hours to be fed/changed. Your girlfriend will be recovering from delivery, and her hormones may be more whacked out than usual. Your family will need you to be healthy and strong.

We have five children and every once in awhile, Hubby considers a part-time job but I won't hear of it. Our time with the children is precious and limited as well as our time with each other.

I wish the best for you, no matter what you decide.

[buccaneer19]

i know its a tough time right now but everything will fall into place man, i wish the best for ya

[Primal Instinct]

Family first and everything else where you can fit it in, Shibby. When I say family, I mean primarily your health and wellbeing because if you go down from injury or get overstressed and constantly snapping at everyone, your family will suffer as well. It sounds like you need cash but you also need your health, which is far more important. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither was a new family structure. These things take time to settle in and become a smooth routine. When the baby comes, you will probably suffer from the same sleep deprivation because they only sleep for a few hours at a time at best. Maybe you should just focus on your normal job and put out the fires on the homefront (dealing with your girlfriend, eating healthy, getting proper rest, supporting mom & dad through this troubling time) and the other things will eventually find an equilibrium in your life. Sleep and nutrition are sooo important for maintaining health. I don't know if you have any health insurance or not but consider this; one bout in the hospital without insurance can ruin some people financially. I'd say to slow down a bit before you crash and burn and crap really hits the fan. What good is a relationship if you're making it miserable? Spend a little quality time with the GF and talk it over with her. Reconnect and then go on from there. Good luck, bro!

[bad14u]

Shibby....take it from a guy that just went through the same situation.....YOU need to take care of yourself first! Stay healthy! You won't be doing anyone any good if you work yourself into an early grave. Regardless of your financial needs in the future you first need to stay mentally healthy. Being over-worked and stressed can lead to bad decision making, mood swings and an unhealthy relationship between you and your girl. She and that baby need you more right now than any amount of money. Regardless of the hours you work or how much you get paid during that time it can't replace the time you will miss out on with them. I just quit my 2nd job, THANK GOD, and the time I spend with my family has given me more than any amount of money could....HAPPINESS and PEACE OF MIND! Take care of yourself, finish school and be there for your family in the long run......not necessarily in that order though! Good luck Bro!

[Shibby]

Thanks everyone for your help. As of about a couple hours ago things worked themselves out. I talked to the guy I was helping and we came to the conclusion that it would be best for both of us if he asked this other guy to be his helper. With my schedule, the majority of the time we would be working during the 4-5 hottes hours of the days. I live in Oklahoma and when the temp get in the 90's and above with the humidity it can really kill you. The guy I work with is also in like is late 50's and he just can't handle it to much either. There are also things that are better done when it's not so hot espeaccially when it comes to the roofing. It is better for him to get use to working with someone else now and get a rythm going. My parents understand and know that I am working hard and it looks like I shouldn't worry so much about the car. Things always have a way of working out when you have great support group around you. My girlfriend already seems so much happier and we are both relieved.

[bad14u]

Glad to hear it Bro!

[BBAddict]

Sounds like it worked out great for all of you. Enjoy the time with your family!

[Puddles]

You made a good decision. Take care of yourself and enjoy as much pregnancy time with your g/f as you can, it's amazing how quickly this special time goes by and you don't want to look back and regret not having enjoyed it as much as possible. Hugggs to you, your g/f and the baby.

[C Swoles]

glad things worked out fine shibby. u about to be a dad, you should be happy.

[JUICE]

knowing u brother, ur a smart guy. In the near future, very near with ur education and all bro its all gonna pay off man. Just take it a day at a time.:)

Just like Primal is saying, "It sounds like you need cash but you also need your health, which is far more important. Rome wasn't built in a day and neither was a new family structure. These things take time to settle in and become a smooth routine. When the baby comes, you will probably suffer from the same sleep deprivation because they only sleep for a few hours at a time at best. Maybe you should just focus on your normal job and put out the fires on the homefront (dealing with your girlfriend, eating healthy, getting proper rest, supporting mom & dad through this troubling time) and the other things will eventually find an equilibrium in your life."


Like me, and i barely realized this. I was so into working out and looking good that i wouldnt stop for anything or anyone. I realized that i wasnt making no money, was losing my girlfriend, and too stressed out for nothing. I said to myself, my future is what i need to worry about. I need to focus on the most important things for me that are gonna help me in life.

[JUICE]

it looks like I shouldn't worry so much about the car. Things always have a way of working out when you have great support group around you. My girlfriend already seems so much happier and we are both relieved.

about the car thing bro, dont worry amigo, its all gonna pay off and u will have the best bro.

[Primal Instinct]

Glad that things are working out well for you now, Shibby!

[buccaneer19]

good to hear