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Well I have been here in NC for about 4 months now and it has hit me like a ton of bricks. I was born and raised in New Jersey my whole life and im having a hard time with North Carolina. Everything is slower here. The people are different. There nice and all but there not my kind of "people", that being italian tough guy types that is all I have known my whole life. I feel like I dont fit in and I dont want to fit in! lol. I had a guy at the gym the other day tell me that I seem like a "tony soprano" type guy whatever the fuck that means. Damn hill billy honkies, lol. Im missing my old gym, im missing the NJ turnpike believe it or not, lol, im missing my friends, and so on. What do I do about being homesick? thanks for listening to my rant.
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Last edited by Bouncer; 07-11-05, 11:25 PM. -
B, it is a well known fact that when you move somewhere totally different from a place you have been use to all your life, you need to give it a least a year. That way, you can have time to disassociate yourself from what has always felt "normal" and get use to your new surroundings and also make lasting friendships. -
Im sure it will take longer for me since I dont want to adjust in the first place. If I ever turn into these people, just shoot me! Sorry if I offend anyone from NC. lolComment
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Do you have any family there at all or are they also back in NJ? Homesick is tough on people of all ages. All I can say is try to get back for visits as often as you can. Call your friends, attend some shows together. See if you can get through this period OK and maybe things will get better and you'll get over this hump. Take a day trip to the ocean and just relax on the beach and breathe in the salty air. It may seem familiar to you and you'll feel a bit better for it. Maybe you'll find new friends (while maintaining your existing ones) and you'll feel more comfortable. You shouldn't have to change to fit in nor should you expect others to change to accept you as you are. I'm sure that you will find an equilibrium with your surroundings at some point. Just don't lose what you bring to the table though. If they can't accept you as you are and you don't feel comfortable with them, keep looking. It will happen. At least you still have your friends here to talk to. Home is where you make it.Comment
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I agree with everything Cory said. Being someone who has lived in 4 different places in the last 4-5 years I know exactly how you feel. I constintly miss Texas and it's been almost 3 years since living there. When I went out to California I didn't fit in. The more I got to know the place the less I ended up wanting to fit in. But that's a drastic change going from the good 'ol south to such a self centered place. Now living in the middle of no where Oklahoma I at least feel a little more at peace. I am ready however to move back to Texas or possibly Arizona. But with Arizona it has to do with most my family living there. You sound alot like me in the fact that you are a person who needs to have people close to your heart around you.Comment
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Then you and sana come to New Orleans!!! You guys would fit in very well down here. Nobody is uptight whatsoever and there are some cool bros down here!!! :lm:Originally posted by THE BOUNCERComment
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Thanks for all the good advice. I just feel like nothing will be like jersey unless I go back ya know. I think im having a hard time with "Southern Lifestyle" in general. Im used to everything fast, fast, fast.Comment
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I had an episode of this when I was in California and it made me want to leave even faster. Of course things weren't not going well for me at all. I went to a different gym one day just to check out another one with in the company. I kind of had that out of body expierence I guess. I layed down to do hamstring curls and right out the window (I was on the second floor) there is this little park engoulphed(sp) by Oakland. Literally for a few seconds I forgot where I was and thought I was back in Austin. It was a few seconds of complete hapiness that really ended up making me homesick.Originally posted by Primal InstinctComment
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I feel your pain B. I have only moved three times in my life and the first itme was away from my home that I lived in for 23 years. I had a hard time adjusting becasue I missed my friends and hanging out. Eventually I settled into Pensacola life and I really loved it. I then moved to Panama City after living in P'cola for 4 years and I hated it for the first six months or so and this is only 45 minutes from my hometown and all my friends live down here. Now I am settled and while I miss P'cola, I think I would miss living here if I moved back there again.
As far as the "Southern Lifestyle" You will either get used to it or you won't. My father-in-law has grown quite used to it, mainly becasue he thinks we are all dumb down here and he is above us. On the other hand, my wife's boss really hasn't gotten used to it due to the way people work down here.Comment
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Yup. Thats pretty much how I feel when I hear some of these people talk. "How yall doooing". lol. On the other side of it, when I say, "how ya don" I never hear the end of it. :DOriginally posted by MegiddoComment
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Yeah ask somone how they are doing down here and you get about a month's worth of gossip, weather reports, fishing trends, and their life story.Originally posted by THE BOUNCERComment
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so i have noticed. i just say how ya don to people when i walk by them in the gym and such. i have noticed that people actually stop and tell me how they are doing!! lolOriginally posted by MegiddoComment
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Yeah same here. That is also one of the reasons I bring my own music. Now I am at a dungeon and most of the guys are so into their training that I don't have to worry about it.Comment
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I feel for ya bro...I can't even imagine living anywhere but where I am now. Take a few days to get home for a visit...it'll give you a boost.Comment
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Move to WV we have all the hillbilly honkies you can eat....Comment
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