a special someone in Canada....also a question for those that can give honest opinion

[NYCmitch25]

Hey BodyJbuild good story bro, I have a friend in an identical situation and he did go be with her (New Hampshire). He is really happy and things are working out well. He let her know he was wanted to take things really slow. However, Shibby makes a good point. You have to consider the long term.

[BodyJBbuild]

how long as she been divored? is the guy still in the picture? this is the devils advocate in me but you need to find out the dirt now because love is blinding in a way that sucks sometimes. Down the road you don't want to be caught up in some shit. Keep your head on straight in situations like this.

been divorced for over 8months...hes not really in picture anymore...he has a gf and all...there not seeing each other, and hes not seein the kids too often either.

thanks puddles, its just hard to make the choice.

shibby, i do, but then i dont want kids...she said she would have 1 more for me if i wanted one of my own.

[BodyJBbuild]

im gonna go, i have to take this chance...i miss her too much..and shes very rare to find...bc im picky..shes not soo maintance..like on my hair my nails and things like that...shes not a tomboy...but perfect for me
get my shit paid off...then im heading out there....i dont wanna see here wondering what if?

[ROCKETW19]

thats a tuff question to anwser bro. my first thought would be you have notting to lose so go but then reading bonebreakers post makes alot of sence. remember your only 21 and there is still plenty of life left but it might bother you if you dont see what happens. shit bro im as confused as you. good luck in what ever you decide.

[Shibby]

im gonna go, i have to take this chance...i miss her too much..and shes very rare to find...bc im picky..shes not soo maintance..like on my hair my nails and things like that...shes not a tomboy...but perfect for me
get my shit paid off...then im heading out there....i dont wanna see here wondering what if?

Sounds good, just be carefull to not get stuck to soon, so to speak. Just meaning that the more of yourself you take care of and not let her do, will help you to concentrate on the quality of the relationship and you will have an out if things don't work out quite like you hope. Don't go up there and disapeer from the board either. Let us know how it goes. I'm always up for a love story :nerdnew:

[BodyJBbuild]

Sounds good, just be carefull to not get stuck to soon, so to speak. Just meaning that the more of yourself you take care of and not let her do, will help you to concentrate on the quality of the relationship and you will have an out if things don't work out quite like you hope. Don't go up there and disapeer from the board either. Let us know how it goes. I'm always up for a love story :nerdnew:

right on shibby, thanks.
dont worry im taking my computer with me, hahaha

[space mountain]

I think you need to quit thinking and go be with her. I got a lump in my throat just reading your love story. lol Its better to go for it rather than never know what you could've had.

i agree bro...

[coffee-guy]

I'm with Shibby on this one.

Don't forget about financial ties too bro. Don't sign on her mortgage, bills, credit cards etc until you two are sure it's for real (say a couple of years from now). You will have to play a good game with this one so she doesn't think you're not committed etc and I'm not saying not to contribute your share to the relationship, just be smart.

Also, she's probably set in her ways and you are easily influenced at your age (as am I too - I'm still pretty young in most people's views even though I've lead a strange life). It would be too easy for you to get stuck with no way out from under certain things and then you might feel obliged to stick around just to keep from going broke the rest of your life.

Just some "serious" things to think about when you are in a "serious" relationship...

:hmmm:

[Puddles]

BodyJbuild- Do you want to have kids of your own? She already has two and is getting to a point in her age where it's not the best idea to have kids.

:hmmm:

She's 30, that's a more common age and into mid 30's to start having kids these days than early 20's.

[Shibby]

:hmmm:

She's 30, that's a more common age and into mid 30's to start having kids these days than early 20's.

When I said she's getting there, I meant that as in it would have to be somewhat of an immidiate issue. That's alot of pressure to put on a new relationship.

[Puddles]

OK. :) I just didn't want him thinking that at 33 or so it's not good to have kids.

[Primal Instinct]

true man, same thing happend to my friend who went out with a girl with kids. After the breakup, it was hard because of her kids, how they were attached to my friend.

I've been there and done that. I now know that I could love someone else's biological children as my own. In every other respect, they were my children. Yet, for all of the pain that I went through missing them, I've learned a lot about myself in the process and I'd do it all over again knowing the same could happen. You will always regret not pursuing this whole thing. It could be the best thing that ever happened to you but you'll never know until you try. Follow your heart.