What is it about men & their pregnant wives

[redsquirrel]

sweet! :D

i am not sure if it will change or not to be honest. just have to see. i always hear dudes saying "i cant do that to the mother of my child" when we are talking some dirty shit in the gym or whatever. something seems to change, you become more sacred in sense. people are different though. sonis may be back to normal after the baby is born.

No, I appreciate the honesty. It makes sense. It's just not what I want the answer to be- but that's ok.

It just better change once things go back to pre-prego times...

[Bouncer]

It helps that you would bang me.

sweet! :D

i am not sure if it will change or not to be honest. just have to see. i always hear dudes saying "i cant do that to the mother of my child" when we are talking some dirty shit in the gym or whatever. something seems to change, you become more sacred in sense. people are different though. sonis may be back to normal after the baby is born.

[redsquirrel]

more like he views you as "family". mom, child, etc..

instead of viewing you as hot wife you hold a different image now. sounds crazy but sort of the same image you have when you think of your mom or dad. its that comforting, down home feeling that has nothing to do with sex etc..

Really? That does sound crazy. Is it just while I am pregnant? So, to go without for 6+ months is better than thinking of your parents having sex? I mean, it makes sense- especially since he said he'd have to close his eyes. God knows who or what he's fantasizing about....

It helps that you would bang me.

[FitnessBrat]

No. He wanted to, but we couldn't. Since I had the cyst on my ovary, sex was restricted for I think 8 or 12 weeks...then I started to show. Having sex could rupture the cyst that was supplying hormones to the fetus, and make it also very painful.

Oh, okay. Well it's probably a combination of worrying about harming the baby is some way (related to what you just said), viewing you as more "fragile", and most men start to stress about becoming a father/providing enough, etc (they just may not say so)

[redsquirrel]

So even when you were "barely" pregnant he had an issue?

No. He wanted to, but we couldn't. Since I had the cyst on my ovary, sex was restricted for I think 8 or 12 weeks...then I started to show. Having sex could rupture the cyst that was supplying hormones to the fetus, and make it also very painful.

[Bouncer]

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

i would have sex with you if that helps. :D

[Bouncer]

Actually, now that you go into more detail, it is making more sense. Are you saying it's more like he feels like he's violating me or the child in some way?

more like he views you as "family". mom, child, etc..

instead of viewing you as hot wife you hold a different image now. sounds crazy but sort of the same image you have when you think of your mom or dad. its that comforting, down home feeling that has nothing to do with sex etc..

[FitnessBrat]

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

So even when you were "barely" pregnant he had an issue?

[redsquirrel]

i dont think its about the way the body looks. i think its more about the image of "mom" with the child. he looks at you differently now in a sense. hope i am making sense.

Actually, now that you go into more detail, it is making more sense. Are you saying it's more like he feels like he's violating me or the child in some way?

[redsquirrel]

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.


Red, I know that's hard and doesn't make you feel good at all. I guess just try not to take it personal. I think it was real shitty for him to ask you that, though - and I know I would have said the same.

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

[Bouncer]

LOL. Thought you might like that.

EEEK. Maybe I should delete the thread. LOL

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child? Or, does it all boil down to the unattractiveness of the pregnant body?

Then, you throw in all of the raging hormones, and the slew of female training clients he has, you can only imagine where my mind is going. I mean- 9 + months for a guy to go without sex seems impossible to me.

i dont think its about the way the body looks. i think its more about the image of "mom" with the child. he looks at you differently now in a sense. hope i am making sense.

[Bouncer]

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.

its not about other men, its about the husband of the wife that's pregnant that looks at it that way. they see the child in their mind etc..


other men dont see it that way. i would love to hump on red for a minute. thats hot. :P

[FitnessBrat]

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child?

That's the part I don't get. It's one thing for Bouncer to say he isn't attracted to pregnant women - of course, they aren't his wife or carrying his child. It's very different.

[redsquirrel]

ahahah :rofl: i like this guy.

dont have kids and not married but i am a guy. you know me so i will just give it to ya straight, dont take it personal. a pregnant women is just not something that gets a guy going. its not very attractive. as cold as it sounds, you are mom now as apposed to wife. have to give it some time.

LOL. Thought you might like that.

EEEK. Maybe I should delete the thread. LOL

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child? Or, does it all boil down to the unattractiveness of the pregnant body?

Then, you throw in all of the raging hormones, and the slew of female training clients he has, you can only imagine where my mind is going. I mean- 9 + months for a guy to go without sex seems impossible to me.

[FitnessBrat]

ahahah :rofl: i like this guy.

dont have kids and not married but i am a guy. you know me so i will just give it to ya straight, dont take it personal. a pregnant women is just not something that gets a guy going. its not very attractive. as cold as it sounds, you are mom now as apposed to wife. have to give it some time.

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.


Red, I know that's hard and doesn't make you feel good at all. I guess just try not to take it personal. I think it was real shitty for him to ask you that, though - and I know I would have said the same.