What is it about men & their pregnant wives

[Shibby]

We then have been doing the not fun baby sex for the past 2 years.

Sounds like a lot of the pleasure has been taken out of it until this point so it may have became more of a chore instead of intimacy.

[bigscott]

Thanks. That makes me feel better. Did your wife complain about the lack of it, or try and coax you to have sex?

yes -- wouldnt give me any for a long time after the birth -

[beefcake]

I dont think it's a problem of being not attracted to the prego female, I think it's more of a problem of something being in the way. Doesn't really make sex all that much fun and much more of a workout when you have to alter your position to accomodate. Most dudes I know love preggo chicks. Especially since the tits are nice and fat. He's missing out on getting some gh from sucking on a preggo titty. I doubt he's cheating though. Probably rubbing em out and that's why he's not all over you. Some guys are just not into it.

[CrankinSteiN]

Puto:Dyou like them fat don't you?

LMAO No No... I like them prego... It's sexy to me somehow.... So I will take on the job of servicing all of ur prego wives since none of you guys want to.... Prego women are horny.... You don't know what your missin.... lol

[Bouncer]

Ah-ha...Now that you say that, it makes a lot of sense. I mean, all men I think are attentive to their wives when they are pregnant. But, now that you say that, there have been other instances that would corroborate that. Like, I've forgotten my cell phone a couple times, and he freaks out.

maybe you should talk to him about it. he me have some kind of guilt built up or something.


also, i would like to apologize. i feel like i was a little to blunt yesterday and had no intention of making you feel bad or hurt your feelings when i was talking about pregnant women not being sexy etc..

you know i respect and love ya.

[redsquirrel]

something else to think about red. he may have his own issues about the baby that didn't make it.

maybe it has nothing to do with attraction or sex and maybe its more about him trying to do everything possible to make sure nothing happens to this baby.

Ah-ha...Now that you say that, it makes a lot of sense. I mean, all men I think are attentive to their wives when they are pregnant. But, now that you say that, there have been other instances that would corroborate that. Like, I've forgotten my cell phone a couple times, and he freaks out.

[NYCmitch25]

Oh yes- he's totally into the whole baby thing. We have been trying now for about 4 years. I delivered our first child back in 06 at 22 weeks. She didn't make it. We then have been doing the not fun baby sex for the past 2 years. He's going to start on the nursery next week, and was really in awe when he felt the baby kick. Even just last night he was saying something to the effect of how cool it is to see my belly keep growing, (that makes one of us!) and how unreal it all seems that there is a child in there.

Technically, yes- this is our first child.

I think your relationship is healthy and the way he is acting is somewhat normal especially with the first child. i had similar feeling with my first. its more about expectations/ anxiety of being a father. i woulnd worry.

the sex life will be great again just hang in there... well you could always go out and buy some "toys' for yourself :)

[babyblues]

I wouldn't be surprised if he is having a hard time with feeling like a perv. I don't have children, but I know that the thought of having sex with my pregnant wife (hypothetically) feels like I would be violating her dignity or something. I don't know how else to describe it. I mean, I've always found pregnant woman attractive, not in an inappropriate way, but it feels wrong to want sex. I don't know....it sounds weird when I say it, but that's the gist of it.

[Bouncer]

something else to think about red. he may have his own issues about the baby that didn't make it.

maybe it has nothing to do with attraction or sex and maybe its more about him trying to do everything possible to make sure nothing happens to this baby.

[FrankTheTank55]

Yeah, its a little weird but when my wife was pregnant with my son I made sure to try to make her feel beautiful and wanted. Women feel fat and ugly and its very depressing. I think its bullshit for your husband to say those things to you even if they are his true feelings. I mean you and carrying the baby, you have to give birth. The least he can do is make love to you or whatever else he has to do to make sure you feel special! I mean is it really that big a deal that he cant put his feelings aside for a hour to make you feel like the old you??? Just my thoughts anyways...

[redsquirrel]

not impossible because i did it -- i didnt have sex with my wife when she was pregnant with both of my daughters :)

Thanks. That makes me feel better. Did your wife complain about the lack of it, or try and coax you to have sex?

[redsquirrel]

its hard to reading through so much bs banter btwee rado and B so im not going too

let me ask you this - is he into the whole baby thing/ is he excited? i.e painting a babies room, feeling your tummy see if baby moves, buying things etc.? is this yoour first child together...? from other post i think it is

Oh yes- he's totally into the whole baby thing. We have been trying now for about 4 years. I delivered our first child back in 06 at 22 weeks. She didn't make it. We then have been doing the not fun baby sex for the past 2 years. He's going to start on the nursery next week, and was really in awe when he felt the baby kick. Even just last night he was saying something to the effect of how cool it is to see my belly keep growing, (that makes one of us!) and how unreal it all seems that there is a child in there.

Technically, yes- this is our first child.

[redsquirrel]

you have been worried about him cheating for a long time now. not the best thing to be think about while having a baby.

I know. Those are really my own personal trust issues. He hasn't given me any reason to think he is since we've been married. (5 years)

As for not the best thing to be thinking about- it comes with the territory. When a woman is pregnant, and this far along, you really feel very unsexy, and start to look to large. So, the lack of self confidence because I'm starting to look so big, coupled with his apprehension to have sex just isn't a good combo for a female. I mean, I gave him more shit about it last night, and he said he would try if I really wanted to. I tried to dig a little more as to what the big deal is, and he just said he feels so weird. So, what everyone is saying about some guys feeling weird makes sense.

[NYCmitch25]

its hard to reading through so much bs banter btwee rado and B so im not going too

let me ask you this - is he into the whole baby thing/ is he excited? i.e painting a babies room, feeling your tummy see if baby moves, buying things etc.? is this yoour first child together...? from other post i think it is

[bigscott]

BAHHH!! LMAO!

I'm not doubting that he loves me. I'm doubting if he's been faithful this long- especially with some ho client that I think is throwing herself at him! But, that coupled with the no sex is making me really paranoid.

ha ha ha ha you sound like my wife did at that time - to much of a sin for me to fuck someone else with my wife carrying my child - way to much respect -

now when she put on weight last year - yes i did spend time with someone else at this point i regret wholly - we have worked through that - she has been able to get comfortable with me again but with that she has slacked on her eating habits and training habits - me not having sex with her has brought back memories of last year so she is back on track -

yes i sound like a selfish asshole but i spend a shitload of time busting my ass in the gym - just want my wife to look the part aswell