I can't wait to be a parent.

[Shibby]

Why do you find it necessary to spank your kids? Can you not discipline them without spanking? I was never spanked by my parents ever. So what's wrong with this thinking here? Or are you once again not a believer:rolleyes:

How about you use all that experience of being a parent less than a year and raise your child the way you see fit and I will raise mine my way.

[Bouncer]

what is this non believing shit you keep talking about and what does that have to do with this thread?

[blm]

I was never spanked by my parents ever.

That explains a lot. They should have slapped the fuck out of you. ;)

[blm]

:rofl:

I guess so:)

In all seriousness though. I'm not sure where I stand on that issue. I'm not a parent so I can only speculate on what I would do, but my father beat the shit out of me (belts, fists, tree limbs, whatever worked) and I grew up a very violent kid. My first response to something that got me emotional was to punch something/someone. It wasn't until I was in the military that I realized all the negative repercussions involved with that type of expression.

Since my father was such an angry and violent man, did that lead to my angry/violent expression. I really do think so. I saw him smash shit so I did it too.

On the other hand, I kind of think a swift smack on the ass to emphasize a point maybe isn't such a bad thing if that is where the line is drawn.

[Bouncer]

In all seriousness though. I'm not sure where I stand on that issue. I'm not a parent so I can only speculate on what I would do, but my father beat the shit out of me (belts, fists, tree limbs, whatever worked) and I grew up a very violent kid. My first response to something that got me emotional was to punch something/someone. It wasn't until I was in the military that I realized all the negative repercussions involved with that type of expression.

Since my father was such an angry and violent man, did that lead to my angry/violent expression. I really do think so. I saw him smash shit so I did it too.

On the other hand, I kind of think a swift smack on the ass to emphasize a point maybe isn't such a bad thing if that is where the line is drawn.

i think anything extreme is the wrong approach. the way you were raised and hit like that was wrong.

but i also know that in my case for example. i was not afraid of my mom at like 6-7 and on. i was a little smart ass. it wasn't until my step dad came along and wacked me on the ass a few times that i straightened up. i was never beat or anything like that but i think an occasional smack on the ass when you are bad can serve as a healthy reminder/get you back on track.

[Bouncer]

I'm sorry about that B.

I never said a pat on the ass is wrong, but spanking your kids IMO is not right...There are studies out there and numerous books have been written on what the dangers are when you hit your child.

so you are sitting here arguing with shibby about something and all along you agree with him. as he said in his post, "all I'm talking about is spanking on the butt."

[Bouncer]

I missed that comment big deal...Why don't you spank me then.

a believer wouldn't miss such a comment. :hmm:

[blm]

I'm sorry about that B.

lol...no need. I'm a big boy now. My father and I are best friends; he knows what he did was wrong, but he was young (17) and had a lot of problems of his own apart from being a new teenage dad. I forgive him, but he doesn't forgive himelf. He's a good man that made some bad decisions. It happens.

[Bouncer]

lol...no need. I'm a big boy now. My father and I are best friends; he knows what he did was wrong, but he was young (17) and had a lot of problems of his own apart from being a new teenage dad. I forgive him, but he doesn't forgive himelf. He's a good man that made some bad decisions. It happens.

he sounds like a tool. push him down the steps.

[blm]

he sounds like a tool. push him down the steps.

lol. He's only 50 and still quite capable of taking care of himself. That bastard is old school of hard knocks tough. No less intimidating in his older age.

[CrankinSteiN]

Rado you dumb ass.... we were both just saying that a smack on the ass is sometimes ok or needed.... You just like to argue.....

[Bouncer]

lol. He's only 50 and still quite capable of taking care of himself. That bastard is old school of hard knocks tough. No less intimidating in his older age.

fuck him

[blm]

fuck him

outta line

[curtus e flush]

I CAN wait:)

[bigscott]

In all seriousness though. I'm not sure where I stand on that issue. I'm not a parent so I can only speculate on what I would do, but my father beat the shit out of me (belts, fists, tree limbs, whatever worked) and I grew up a very violent kid. My first response to something that got me emotional was to punch something/someone. It wasn't until I was in the military that I realized all the negative repercussions involved with that type of expression.

Since my father was such an angry and violent man, did that lead to my angry/violent expression. I really do think so. I saw him smash shit so I did it too.

On the other hand, I kind of think a swift smack on the ass to emphasize a point maybe isn't such a bad thing if that is where the line is drawn.

bro , i got the same thing but it was from my mother ,

tried drowning me , beat me with sticks , tried to smother me , i could go on and on its not fucking pretty ,

i get angry , i lash out , hurting someone doesnt bother me , i carry and will carry deep scars till death ,

i vowed that if i ever had kids i would never treat them that way - my kids are my world , my life , i am very protective of them - i will hurt a motherfucker that crosses the wrong path with me and my 2 girls they mean more to me then my own life -

i should have went into the service -- i feel it would have helped me with my anger -- i turned to the gym and beating myself into the ground its what keeps the beast at bay

BLM , reading your post - brought up memories of my own brother