Divorce

[3v1lj03]

I have never been divorced myself. I am the product 2 broken marriages and I don't want to offend you but it is not the best thing for the kids. Parents always say that to assuage their guilt.

[dna9488]

I am sorry to hear that Frank. I don't know anything but divorce, nor marriage.

I hope everything works out in the end, and your kids don't get hurt.

Best of luck to you bro, we're here to help :)

[dna9488]

how about you know your roll and bow down to the alpha male and do your womanly duties. :hibb:

Its spelled role buddy :)

[FitnessBrat]

i was aiming the pic at myself..

complex about being a stripper i see... :hibb:

Nah, I can sling drinks for the same money they're slingin' ass for :wacko:

[FitnessBrat]

I have never been divorced myself. I am the product 2 broken marriages and I don't want to offend you but it is not the best thing for the kids. Parents always say that to assuage their guilt.

Have to disagree. I come from a broken home as well. I would never have expected my mother to stay with my father just because it "might be what's best for me." Children know when things aren't "right", so they're living in a "broken home" regardless. It doesn't lessen the guilt either, I can guarantee you that.

[Bouncer]

agreed^. im glad my mom took me and left my dad. would have been much worse off.

[Shibby]

If you don't mind discussing it a little, I have a question or two. I will only ask your perspective. I don't want you to have to speculate.

Do you feel that you have just grown apart?

Do you feel resentful towards her? Like you made changes to yourself as kind of compromise but now you feel it wasn't worth it.

[FrankTheTank55]

If you don't mind discussing it a little, I have a question or two. I will only ask your perspective. I don't want you to have to speculate.

Do you feel that you have just grown apart?

Do you feel resentful towards her? Like you made changes to yourself as kind of compromise but now you feel it wasn't worth it.

Well to be honest we got married for the wrong reason. We had a child together and when my daughter was 6 months old we split up. About a year and a half later she wanted to try to make it work. We were together about 3 years and I thought we should get married. I just thought it was the best thing to do. To be honest we were never madly in love.

As far a being resentful.... When we first broke up when my daughter was a baby. I found out she had hooked up with my best friend. Thats was really hard to take even though we were broke up and what she did wasnt any of my business, I felt that was a line neither one of them should have crossed. To be honest I had a hard time getting past that and that was the root of many fights for years. There were alot of other reasons we fought but that was something I resented her for.


But the fighting just kept worse and the kids would see it. My four year old started making comments about us always fighting. And when you see your kid's face when they seen or heard you fighting is the worse feeling. We have tried many times but things always seam to go back.

[FrankTheTank55]

Wow...Well you have an adorable little muncher bro...Be good to him(not saying you're not)and just be the best person you can be for both parties.

Yeah we have a beautiful daughter aswell. The kids are the reason I stayed so long but I dont want them living with this anymore. Dude, Im so wore out from fighting that I dont even think I can do it anymore anyways. She is being cool so far. We will see how long that lasts.

[Konitz]

I was a kid in a divorce, all I can say is make sure to stay in your kids lives.

It was better to see me parent's divorce and be happy in their separate lives, then have to listen to all their yelling and fighting.

[Mr I]

Sorry to hear that Frank, things will resolve one way or another, if your on your own well you were on your own before but now you have kids which is great

[NewbieChris]

Divorce sucks, but people sometime get married for the wrong reason. I hope everything works out well.

[Shibby]

I can give you a kids perspective. My parents divorced when I was 3, so them being seperate was all I know. They don't talk anymore because obviously there is no need, but what I do remember them fighting about a lot was how we (my brother and I) were raised. Being that they have always lived in seperate states for as long as I can remember, it was a constant struggle to know what my life was. My dad was all about controling us and my mom was more about boundries but letting find our own ways inside those boundries. When we went to live with my mom when I was 12 (brother 14) the whole world felt like it opened up. My mom kind just dealt with my dad and pretty much removed us from the tug of war between them. I feel this was the most beneficial thing that ever happened to us. So Frank, as you and their mom work through these kinds of things, just remember that your kids can get caught in the middle even if by accident.

[FrankTheTank55]

I can give you a kids perspective. My parents divorced when I was 3, so them being seperate was all I know. They don't talk anymore because obviously there is no need, but what I do remember them fighting about a lot was how we (my brother and I) were raised. Being that they have always lived in seperate states for as long as I can remember, it was a constant struggle to know what my life was. My dad was all about controling us and my mom was more about boundries but letting find our own ways inside those boundries. When we went to live with my mom when I was 12 (brother 14) the whole world felt like it opened up. My mom kind just dealt with my dad and pretty much removed us from the tug of war between them. I feel this was the most beneficial thing that ever happened to us. So Frank, as you and their mom work through these kinds of things, just remember that your kids can get caught in the middle even if by accident.

Thanks Bro, I will remember this...

[bigscott]

Thanks Bro, I will remember this...

keep it engrained in your mind till death brother !!! i came from a fucked up home - my mother took lifes curve balls and hit me with them !!

almost got divorced not long ago myself -- my fault !! my selfish reasons - the pussy looked more pink on the other side of the fence :noo: - crazy bitch she was lol -

i almost threw away what i didnt have my whole life and that was family -- things are better now that i pulled my head out of my ass -

point being -- if you guys are always arguing thats not family and no place for young ones !!!

try to move on from eachother in the most peaceful manner possible thats best for the kids - also try not to bad mouth mom when your finally apart . let your children grow up in a civil world of yours and there mothers even if your not together .

builds and shows respect

good luck brother !!