I am thinking about crippiling a co-worker

[3v1lj03]

I have read everybody's testimony and appreciate the debate. I am a family man. In my belief system a man who does not take care of his family is worse then an infidel. Like I said before there is little that anyone can say about me that would cause me to react the way his disrespectful comment did. (I don't believe he didn't know what he said). If he had given a sincere apology at the time I would have let it go.(we all say stupid things sometimes) But saying "sorry, I didn't know who" While laughing in not real in my book. So, after much prayer and consideration based on what is best for my family, and taking into consideration his wife and children's well being I decided to take the advice offered by several and make it clear that he needs to stop saying stupid stuff around me. So, I told the closest thing he has to a friend that his bud was going to end up with a broken jaw if he didn't get his mouth under control. So, the guy came to me this morning and said he was sorry again (half hearted imo) we were alone I told he has a problem that he needs to get under control or he is going to have a problem with me. He shut his mouth and left the office. I think he gets it right now for how long I don't know. Rocket I feel just like you. Shibby I cannot relate to what you have said in any way. I was raised in the jungle Shibby and we defend our family's honor always. Sorry you don't understand that.

[3v1lj03]

but there is a few differences.

#1. he never went up to your wife and started putting her down

#2. he admited he didnt even know what you guys were talking about. so he really wasnt even directing it at you or your family.

It is perfectly reasonable that she would hear what happened thru the rumor mill.

[Bouncer]

So, I told the closest thing he has to a friend that his bud was going to end up with a broken jaw if he didn't get his mouth under control.

:disagree:

you say it to the guy. not his friend. and no need for the broken jaw part. that could get you fired. you need to be smart while still defending what you feel is right. how you gonna feel when you cant provide for you family because you were a dumbass? gonna pray then too? lol. you should have gone up to him and said in a calm yet threatening manner, "don't say it again". he would get the point and you would have nothing to worry about because you didn't actually threaten him.

[Bouncer]

It is perfectly reasonable that she would hear what happened thru the rumor mill.

fine, and she would have also heard that you pulled him aside and told him enough is enough.

its perfectly reseasonable that your boss finds out that you threatened to brake someones jaw and fires your ass.

not only did you threaten a guy but you gave him a witness by telling his friend. that will be all over the office.

[3v1lj03]

:disagree:

you say it to the guy. not his friend. and no need for the broken jaw part. that could get you fired. you need to be smart while still defending what you feel is right. how you gonna feel when you cant provide for you family because you were a dumbass? gonna pray then too? lol. you should have gone up to him and said in a calm yet threatening manner, "don't say it again". he would get the point and you would have nothing to worry about because you didn't actually threaten him.

It's done I think except for the jaw thing this is exactly what I did. I did pray that is the reason I did not hurt him.

[3v1lj03]

I did not threaten to break his jaw I said he was going to end up with one if he did not get his mouth under control.

[Shibby]

once again, your full of shit.

every human on this planet wants to be respected. it is our nature. if people are laughing at you or saying "that guy is a pussy" you are not being respected.

you can try and prove all day how it wouldn't bother you but your talking out of your ass. you want to be respected, everyone does.

I'm not full of shit. You just can't open your mind up because its blocked by these barbaric emotions that you can't even explain why you have them. You are arguing to different points as if they are one. We're not talking about the respect of people that have meaning and who make a difference in our lives. We are talking about insignificant people. Its immpossibe to be respected and liked by everyone. I'm not going to be bothered by someone who could care less about me to even know the truth. Letting these INSIGNIFICANT people have an effect on our lives will leave you with and endless and pointless battle.

[Bouncer]

I did not threaten to break his jaw I said he was going to end up with one if he did not get his mouth under control.

thats is a threat to break someones jaw.

[Bouncer]

I did pray that is the reason I did not hurt him.

so god told you not to do it? what does he sound like? deep voice like in the movies?

[Bouncer]

I'm not full of shit. You just can't open your mind up because its blocked by these barbaric emotions that you can't even explain why you have them.

can you explain why you are born knowing how to breath?

its called instinct my friend. try as you might to not be a part of it, you are part of nature. you might like to think you are above it but you aren't. you want respect by those around you. be it co-workers, neighbors etc.. imagine going to work everyday and people walking all over you giving you no respect, in traffic, at the store etc.. these people don't mean anything to you per say but they can still have a major impact on your daily life.

[3v1lj03]

so god told you not to do it? what does he sound like? deep voice like in the movies?

No it's not really like that. It's more of a peace and calmness that replaces the anger and agitation. Right after I prayed about the situation this is when I began to think about his family and how if I really hurt him like I wanted to it would affect them and to see a bigger picture and have the strength to put away my pride and accept even a half hearted apology. I am in no way angry over the situation now. It happened I am not sure if I have fully forgiven him But the anger is gone. And thanks for asking

[Bouncer]

this is when I began to think about his family and how if I really hurt him like I wanted to it would affect them and to see a bigger picture

that's called thought process and weighing the consequences. if you want to call it prayer that's fine, whatever you gotta do to think rationally. :retard:

[Mr I]

so you pull the guy aside and let him know you didn't appreciate it and don't do it again. you dont follow the guy home like some kind of nut job when the guy didnt even say anything directly about his wife or kid in the first place. lol

:agreed:

[Bouncer]

Unless someone physically touches me or my family...not worth going to jail and ending up with an aggravated assault charge or even worse...words are words....if that was the case...I would of killed most of you mother fuckers a long time ago and we would have like 5 members on here:)

IMO, fighting is a last resort....you could hit someone the wrong way and actually kill a person....now look at you; looking at 15 to life for it....

well said.

but then again, like i told shibby. it depends on a situation. lets say you are our with your family and i go up to your wife and son and call them names etc.. dont you think you would step up and beat my ass?

[Bouncer]

Well of course I would...Now would I hit you, probably not....You see...In todays society, me pushing you or laying a hand on you because of an argument(in any state)can be an arrestable offense....Now look at you(or me)...going to jail because you want to be all macho....Good for you...Sit there with a bond and a charge while the person who offended your family is out there probably fucking your wife:D

so you wouldnt hit me if i went up to your wife and started calling her a bunch of names for nothing and screaming at your son making him cry?

if the answer is no you wouldnt hit me. you are a pussy like shibby.