I lil advice needed

[Mr I]

Well man, guy definitely sounds like some snob thats waiting for an ass kicking.

If someone was treating me like that, I would pull him to the side where no one is looking and just talk to him. Straight up and use an aggressive tone.

"I don't appreciate the way you have been talking to me. I believe you have disrespected me and my family on many occasions and I do not appreciate that."

Sounds like this guy has been under your skin a few times. No need to keep quiet, you need to pull him aside and talk to him.

ya what I was asking was more about familys and how to deal, guy came accross as a cock and not someone I want to spend time with and tbh his brother is boring aswell, all sorted I'm seeing family that weekend now so its cool.:)

[the art of war]

fuck his day up, what a chode.

[mofo]

what a chode.

:rofl::rofl: such an immigrant.

[ROCKETW19]

I would go to the Bday party bro! You never know the guy might act "normal" now???? If not put him in his place anyway you feel. I would never let someone stop me from going somewhere like he is doing to you.

[redback]

Guys guys lol! your such a great bunch, but seriousely if it comes to it I'm not backward about coming forwards and telling people the way it is to their face, thats not the problem.

It boils down to this, I don't like the guy, private school educated, elitest arrogant attitude that outwardly judges others and all he is with that private education is a recruitment consultant who opens the door for ladies and acts posh as if it rises him above others, total failure in my book.

I'll be more specific, on that night I drive with my wife to pick him and his girlfreind up to drive them to my sister in laws boyfreinds birthday, on the way he's talking property market and cars no probs, we get out the car and when I stand up he's like "oh so you go to the gym a bit then", I'm sat opposite him at the table and one of the questions he asks in front of everyone is "so do you take steroids then" you know what I'm saying guys? is that the sort of thing you would ask someone on a first meeting getting to know? I would never say to someone do you snort coke or smoke weed, nonna my fucking business none at all. Next thing that left me pissed off was he starts talking about where I'm from (northern England) and says "it it true the women are easy there?" now my mum and sisters which he knows from earlier conversation are from there so I say no different, he's like well that not my experience. His brothers sat next to him who's birthday it is and not saying much but when the women go to the toilet together like they do these punks are commenting on all the women walking past, childish shit.

The problem is family and how to deal with it, I would like to just avoid the twat rather than be exposed to something that might well get me angry and ruin the atmosphere. Thing is sis in law has a kid to his brother and they will hopefully marry at some point and I won't dodge that event but thats big enough to get some escape. This bday is in a small house.

I've told sis in law sorry but I'm up north that weekend visiting family, the wife's kicked off about it but fuck it, I made my mind up now, life's too short to suffer fools and they'll (wife's family) will just make life difficult for her if I say something and I think it would leave me pissed off if I went and didn't say something, so this is the best way out of it.

"sorry I double booked and have plans" done.

LOl this sounds exactly like my ex brother in law. Private school educated, had his masters, would talk down to anyone at every chance. During family gatherings he would try to put you on the spot. Just a really arogant prick. I did my best to ignore it for about six years. During a family xmas gathering i punched the shit out of him in front of his whole family because he had been mouthing off to me all day.Lol his dad pulled me off him and the ex mother in law collapsed on the ground and started havin a panic attack. And this was a spanish/greek family so you can imagine how the shit hit the fan. We both had been drinking but i wish it had never got to that stage. Its hard in those situations i guess you gotta do your best to ignore it and just laugh at the stupid shit. If he knows its getting to you he will keep goin.

[Mr I]

LOl this sounds exactly like my ex brother in law. Private school educated, had his masters, would talk down to anyone at every chance. During family gatherings he would try to put you on the spot. Just a really arogant prick. I did my best to ignore it for about six years. During a family xmas gathering i punched the shit out of him in front of his whole family because he had been mouthing off to me all day.Lol his dad pulled me off him and the ex mother in law collapsed on the ground and started havin a panic attack. And this was a spanish/greek family so you can imagine how the shit hit the fan. We both had been drinking but i wish it had never got to that stage. Its hard in those situations i guess you gotta do your best to ignore it and just laugh at the stupid shit. If he knows its getting to you he will keep goin.

wow thats bad, but I could see it happening if I let my temper get the better of me, think he's just one of those jelous private school kids, sometimes they have problems dealing with the fact that regular guys from poorer backgrounds do ok, and of course if you work out straight away they get jelous hence the comment, so do you take steroids then? their way of making themselves feel better.

Thing is I'm not a competitive guy unless someone draws me in, pricks like this are though, another think he said, "my freind .... has the best physique I ever seen, you've seen him ... haven't you, he's massive proportioned and ripped" notice how the prick again feels outdone and his only way of balancing is to say my freind has...

I don't give a toss what people do, how much money they have or how they look, if they are straight with me and have a good heart then they're cool.

I'll just avoid the prick where possible and bite my lip when I have to be in its company. Thanks for sharing your experience though, thing is we're all lifters on here and most have done the juice, if there's one thing we can do easily is tap into our anger quick. But you have to avoid that most of the time and sometimes it helps me to hear about other people deal with stuff. In my book you have to hold your head in life and keep control, but at the same time like B says don't take shit.:thumup:

[Mr I]

I would go to the Bday party bro! You never know the guy might act "normal" now???? If not put him in his place anyway you feel. I would never let someone stop me from going somewhere like he is doing to you.

Oh yeah I hear ya, now I wouldn't ever let that happen if it was something I otherwise wanted to go to, I don't particularly click with his brother who's b'day it is anyway and would rather go and see my mum and a nephew with health problems than make a point to myself by going to what is a boring party anyway:thumup:

[redback]

wow thats bad, but I could see it happening if I let my temper get the better of me, think he's just one of those jelous private school kids, sometimes they have problems dealing with the fact that regular guys from poorer backgrounds do ok, and of course if you work out straight away they get jelous hence the comment, so do you take steroids then? their way of making themselves feel better.

Thing is I'm not a competitive guy unless someone draws me in, pricks like this are though, another think he said, "my freind .... has the best physique I ever seen, you've seen him ... haven't you, he's massive proportioned and ripped" notice how the prick again feels outdone and his only way of balancing is to say my freind has...

I don't give a toss what people do, how much money they have or how they look, if they are straight with me and have a good heart then they're cool.

I'll just avoid the prick where possible and bite my lip when I have to be in its company. Thanks for sharing your experience though, thing is we're all lifters on here and most have done the juice, if there's one thing we can do easily is tap into our anger quick. But you have to avoid that most of the time and sometimes it helps me to hear about other people deal with stuff. In my book you have to hold your head in life and keep control, but at the same time like B says don't take shit.:thumup:

Haha this sounds like the same guy, he lives in london now too lol.

[redback]

wow thats bad, but I could see it happening if I let my temper get the better of me, think he's just one of those jelous private school kids, sometimes they have problems dealing with the fact that regular guys from poorer backgrounds do ok, and of course if you work out straight away they get jelous hence the comment, so do you take steroids then? their way of making themselves feel better.

This guy couldn't handle the fact that someone from a trade background was making more money than him. And he went through uni and paid all his fuckin uni fees lmao. Its total jealously.

[Mr I]

This guy couldn't handle the fact that someone from a trade background was making more money than him. And he went through uni and paid all his fuckin uni fees lmao. Its total jealously.

not sure he even has a degree, I do, paid for by the state:thumup:

[Mr I]

Haha this sounds like the same guy, he lives in london now too lol.

yeah he mentioned you:rofl: