Advice on workout for pregnancy.

[BENCH355ANIMAL]

Originally posted by bjbabe
Thanks

I just wish that my boyfriend was more understanding and sympathetic about the whole thing.

This is very sad, and I wish he could understand how great it is to be a father. I am very sorry for your loss, and wish you the best through these tough times.

[shortz]

Originally posted by bjbabe
Thanks to all those that replied and gave me your input. But i recently had a miscarriage, i am very upset and depressed about the whole situation. But i will be ok, in time.

The first two months are hard. It is very common to have a miscarriage in that time frame. Don't let it get you discouraged. There is more time. Things have a funny way with working out...you will see. :)

I see you have typed boyfriend. I am assuming you will be getting married?

[bjbabe]

Not getting married anytime soon, he is not ready for marriage come to think about i really doubt he will ever marry me.
He is a wonderful father he has a son by somebody else. What i meant to say about him not being sympathetic was that since the day i told him that i lost the baby he has never once said hey how are you doing. What did the doctor say. Its like he doesnt want to talk about it. To be honest i really dont think thats fair.

[dreamgirl]

Originally posted by bjbabe
Not getting married anytime soon, he is not ready for marriage come to think about i really doubt he will ever marry me.
He is a wonderful father he has a son by somebody else. What i meant to say about him not being sympathetic was that since the day i told him that i lost the baby he has never once said hey how are you doing. What did the doctor say. Its like he doesnt want to talk about it. To be honest i really dont think thats fair.

if he is like most guys.... he doesn't know what to say to you w/o hurting you. not that that is right, but most guys have bad communication skills. he probably is hurting a lot and isn't talking about it because he doesn't want to deal with it.

[BBAddict]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
if he is like most guys.... he doesn't know what to say to you w/o hurting you. not that that is right, but most guys have bad communication skills. he probably is hurting a lot and isn't talking about it because he doesn't want to deal with it.

:agree: I know that I am like that--the more it may hurt, the less I want to talk about it. I don't see how talking about it helps and I also just want to deal with it in my own way-I don't need anybody else telling me how they feel or what I should do. Guys and girls deal with everything differently and while we should be more empathetic, it's really hard.

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by dreamgirl
if he is like most guys.... he doesn't know what to say to you w/o hurting you. not that that is right, but most guys have bad communication skills. he probably is hurting a lot and isn't talking about it because he doesn't want to deal with it.

Thanks dreamgirl

I think that you are right, he is very conservative about issues and likes to keeps things bottle in. Its really hard for him to open up and tell me what is bothering him. We are totally opposite people, i am very open with my feelings.

[bad14u]

Sorry to hear of your loss Bjbabe. I know you must be hurting but thing have a way of working themselves out in life. IMO, God has his plan for all of us and when the time is right you will be blessed with a child. One thing though......PLEASE make sure the father is ready for a child or another child before having one. There are too many fatherless kids in the world today because the fathers are either pieces of shit or unable to handle the responsibility of being a dad. Best of luck!

[urso8up]

Originally posted by bad14u
Sorry to hear of your loss Bjbabe. I know you must be hurting but thing have a way of working themselves out in life. IMO, God has his plan for all of us and when the time is right you will be blessed with a child. One thing though......PLEASE make sure the father is ready for a child or another child before having one. There are too many fatherless kids in the world today because the fathers are either pieces of shit or unable to handle the responsibility of being a dad. Best of luck!

well said You took the word right out of my mouth.

[Puddles]

I'm sorry for your loss. How are you doing?

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by Puddles
I'm sorry for your loss. How are you doing?

I am doing better then before, I was reallly excited when i first found out, i couldn't wait to find out if i was having a boy or a girl i was only five weeks pregnant when i found out i had lost the baby.

I guess things happen for a reason, i just dont understand why a times.

[Puddles]

I don't think we'll ever understand the why in something like this. Hang in there though and keep looking towards the future.

[bad14u]

Originally posted by Puddles
I don't think we'll ever understand the why in something like this. Hang in there though and keep looking towards the future.

It's not for us to know the why but to learn what we can from it and move forward. Seeing that the father has no concern for her well being it was probably.......for the lack of a better word...the best thing to happen right now! If memory serves me correctly, BJBabe is still in school. If so, she needs to get her degree first. Secondly she needs to find the right guy to have a family with! IMO this isn't him!

[bjbabe]

Originally posted by Puddles
I don't think we'll ever understand the why in something like this. Hang in there though and keep looking towards the future.

Thank You Puddles

Time will heal all wounds, i am just keeping myself busy with school starting up again, work and working out. The more i do the less i think.