Childfree by choice?

[VeggieLifterGal]

Originally posted by tigris
I have always wanted to have kids at some point in my life. The main goal of life for any species is to reproduce. You have to keep your genes going its a part of nature. But I understand how some people would not want to have kids especially in our new age where life is so hecktic you dont have time for kids. What does your bf think about it veggiegal?

He's ambivalent, leaning towards my viewpoint.

[Gongshow]

Kids would be a HUGE responsibility beyond anything I can possible imagine Im sure, but I really want at least 2, the thought of carrying on my gene pool is amazing to me, and talking to people who have kids, and how amazing it is to see the birth of their first child...I guess I just want to experience something like that :)

but to each there own, if u dont want kids, more power to ya!

[redMachchick]

We are like this, we don't want to have children right now and maybe never...not sure on that one yet. I am 25 and he is 26 and we have never been pregant...in fact I had a IUD put in just to make sure that didn't happen. People think we're crazy when I tell them, and that bugs the shit outta me. Especially when we lived in GA for a couple of years. I swear its a rite of passage to have babies as soon as your old enough!! I danced at the same club for four years and all the girls except for me had children and all I ever heard was!! Your married and you don't have kids?? But WHY??? Like that was the most fucked up thing they ever heard.... SIGH I like it that we can take off and do anything and go party when we want.

I DO love kids and think that if we DO have children, we will make great parents, just not right now. I wanna wait till I'm 30-35, I think. :D

I also think there are a lot of people who don't deserve kids but yet they still keep pumping them out at a steady rate...its pretty scary. Also a lot of kids I see today run around acting like little hodlums, and its not their fault, its cause their mama and daddy didn't raise them right. Half the time its because the parents were too young to start with, or they didn't really want to be a parent in the first place. Thats why I'm waiting, I want to make sure that I am financially ready for a baby and that I have the patience and understanding to raise them properly. I just hate it when people think it is weird because I choose to wait. :ghey:

[sexyplotzyjr101]

with kids you need money so if you dont have kids its ok because kids are a pain in the ass........................

plotzy

[grifilken]

have you even ever gotten laid plotz? that i seriously doubt...

[sexyplotzyjr101]

fuk grifilkin everyone shes lez and fukin dumbHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHASHAHAHAHAHAHAH

[grifilken]

remember bouncer's post of not verbally abusing other members plotz...you could be banned for that...

[grifilken]

and you aint never said none of this to my face...i'll see you later though...(wtf...whyd you say she's dumb???)

[Primal Instinct]

I think financial stability is a key asset. It is easier as a couple but it can be done as a single parent, although much more difficult. Babies can be expensive and very time consuming. If you aren't ready to make certain sacrifices then you should wait and see if parenthood is really for you. It's very tough to have a demanding career and still be able to devote quality time to a family. Also, I believe that some people shouldn't be parents because of the environment in which they raise their children.

I don't know if I'll ever have my own children but I do know that if I get married someday to someone with children that I could love them as if they were my own. Although I wasn't married, I had been and lived as a family with an ex-girlfriend for 6 years and although, at first they seemed to be just kids, after a while they became "MY" kids. I'm no longer with this girl but I still love the kids (I occasionally see them) and would probably die for them, if it ever came down to it. I have dated other women who want children with me since but have yet to find someone whom I could feel comfortable to making a lifetime committment to. It has to feel right to me and even then, we may decide not to have children and that would be OK with me too. The important thing is that you really love your partner first. The other stuff you can figure out as you go.

[Lexi]

While I was a cheerleader a few years ago, one of the girls I put up in stunts was the siter of 9 others. There were 10 all together, not to mention her mother had had 3 miscarriages before hand.
Can you imagine????

[Lexi]

Back to the subject...
I would love to have kids. If I didnt have a job where the income was uncertain all the time, I would have loved to have had one already. I am 23 but the feeling I get thinking about that is so wonderful. I would never have a baby now though because not only am I not financially stable, nor out of school, but I am in a relationship where that would not be the best idea yet.
That being said, I will wait till I am about 27...

[Puddles]

I discovered I was pregnant a week after my 25th birthday. We'd been married nearly 7 yrs. but the baby was a complete surprise...we were planning on waiting at least a few more yrs. At the time we'd just relocated back to FL from NY because our business failed, we were living with hubby's parents, I had no job, and we had absolutely no savings left...we were so broke! But, even though the timing was wrong, the child was very much wanted. Somehow we pulled it together and feel blessed that she came into our lives at that time. For years we wanted another child or two (the Italian side of the family kept asking when we were having more children too), but financially it wasn't doable. Now that she's 12, we've decided not to start over and we're happy that things are just as they are. We're getting some of our freedom back and we're still young enough to enjoy it too. It's funny how life goes, ya know? Just do what's right for you and don't worry about what others say.

[Primal Instinct]

Originally posted by Lexi
While I was a cheerleader a few years ago, one of the girls I put up in stunts was the siter of 9 others. There were 10 all together, not to mention her mother had had 3 miscarriages before hand.
Can you imagine????

From what I've been told, multiple pregnancies can do a number on your bladder. Wow, I bet that she had to pee ALLLLL the time, lol.

[wildwillie]

I am happy to see so many truthful responses on this subject. It could be a very volitale discussion. I am 35 and been married for 4 years (first and only time) and my wife is 29. We do not have kids and don`t want kids. We are both modern, intelligent, and educated (ok, well, at least SHE is.....LOL) and the old school thought of getting married and buying a home and popping out kids is way out-dated. We have been together for 8 years total and have waited and been patient with everything in our lives. We both have busy careers and make plenty of money and love to travel and do what WE want to do. Our friends and family also think we are "crazy" or "weird" for not already having a house full of kids. Now, don`t get me wrong; we are not "anti - kids" per sey, and we applaud those that can make sacrafices to raise kids in this world today. And, we both like spending time with our nephews and neices and playing with our neighbors kids. It`s just not for us or part of our plans for our life.