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**Face** · 02-11-05, 12:49 PM

Yeah good luck whatever you do, fingers crossed....

**The_Jarhead** · 02-11-05, 01:10 PM

Originally posted by bonebreaker
DG, you said one thing that concerns me for you, and it may not even be what you meant. You said, "This isn't for a relationship, it's just sex" That kind of sounds like that sex, whenever and with whomever is Ok, because it's just sex. Also, and this is not a tit for tat analogy, but; What if you came home after the act of the switcheroo one day, and your husband was having sex with this girl. You get upset and he says, "honey, what's the problem, I've been with her before and it was just for sex". Or vice versa with you and the other guy. Again, it's just for sex.

When swingers swing it's done together. When you are doing it behind the persons back as you explained above it's cheating weather or not you've swung with that person or not.

**bonebreaker** · 02-11-05, 01:24 PM

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
When swingers swing it's done together. When you are doing it behind the persons back as you explained above it's cheating weather or not you've swung with that person or not.

Yeah, I know, and I said it wasn't a tit for tat analogy. But the thing where they may have just bumped into one another, innocently, may or may not cause problems down the road. Suspicion, imagined or real leads to the same result, lack of trust. Once that's gone, it cannot be retrieved. BB

**The_Jarhead** · 02-11-05, 02:08 PM

IMHO if that were to happen there was an under laying trust issue to start with.

again thats just my 2cc's your results may very.

**Puddles** · 02-11-05, 02:36 PM

Originally posted by The_Jarhead
IMHO if that were to happen there was an under laying trust issue to start with.

Exactly.

When a couple is into this stuff honestly and openly with one another there is an increadible amount of trust between them, I would imagine more trust than the typical marriage has.

Stromba and I don't swing but we play TOGETHER with other girls. I know I can leave him alone with a friend and not worry. If I was jealous or insecure about our relationship I'd probably freak when I saw him with one of our friends alone. Similarly, he trusts me not to do anything without him when I'm alone with our friends.

Swinging is done together. Cheating is done seperately without the partner's consent.

When couples go into this with a lot of thought and clear rules laid out beforehand it can be a lot of fun. It's not for everyone, but for the people who enjoy it, it's awesome. If a problem arises down the road, rules can be changed, nothing is set in stone. If one partner (or both) feel it's not right or they change their mind, the other partner has to respect their wishes. If the relationship is solid, this is not difficult because the reason they started this in the first place was to have fun, when it's not fun, that's when it ends.

I had some problems with other areas of my life (having lost some relatives and had surgery, just not feeling myself) and I told my husband that I wasn't up to playing with other girls. I'd basically lost interest and needed some one on one time with him. I told him I didn't know when or if I'd be up to it again. He supported me and never made me feel bad about my decision. When I was ready to go back to playing, I got the ball rolling again and we continued to have fun.

It's that kind of caring and communication that is needed to make this stuff work, if you don't have it, I'd advise against playing around together because problems will happen.

**bonebreaker** · 02-11-05, 03:05 PM

Originally posted by Puddles
Exactly.

When a couple is into this stuff honestly and openly with one another there is an increadible amount of trust between them, I would imagine more trust than the typical marriage has.

Stromba and I don't swing but we play TOGETHER with other girls. I know I can leave him alone with a friend and not worry. If I was jealous or insecure about our relationship I'd probably freak when I saw him with one of our friends alone. Similarly, he trusts me not to do anything without him when I'm alone with our friends.

Swinging is done together. Cheating is done seperately without the partner's consent.

When couples go into this with a lot of thought and clear rules laid out beforehand it can be a lot of fun. It's not for everyone, but for the people who enjoy it, it's awesome. If a problem arises down the road, rules can be changed, nothing is set in stone. If one partner (or both) feel it's not right or they change their mind, the other partner has to respect their wishes. If the relationship is solid, this is not difficult because the reason they started this in the first place was to have fun, when it's not fun, that's when it ends.

I had some problems with other areas of my life (having lost some relatives and had surgery, just not feeling myself) and I told my husband that I wasn't up to playing with other girls. I'd basically lost interest and needed some one on one time with him. I told him I didn't know when or if I'd be up to it again. He supported me and never made me feel bad about my decision. When I was ready to go back to playing, I got the ball rolling again and we continued to have fun.

It's that kind of caring and communication that is needed to make this stuff work, if you don't have it, I'd advise against playing around together because problems will happen.

I understand that and I agree, BUT--"The best laid plans of mice and men often go awry". "What can go wrong will go wrong". My only point here is that why risk something so wonderful for something that is fleeting at best. IMHO, there is nothing morally wrong with what she intends, people should be able to do what they want with their bodies. I just wonder if the risk is worth the reward. BB

**GreekTank** · 02-11-05, 04:38 PM

Originally posted by cowgirl
I wonder how many of the guy's that are condeming DG, are porn addicts?

I like porn, I'm not an addict though:nono:

**GreekTank** · 02-11-05, 04:43 PM

Originally posted by bonebreaker
people should be able to do what they want with their bodies. I just wonder if the risk is worth the reward. BB

Yeah I agree!:pimpslap:

:rofl:

**BENCH355ANIMAL** · 02-14-05, 08:47 AM

Soooooo DG.........did you go through with it?

**bonebreaker** · 02-14-05, 10:02 AM

Originally posted by BENCH355ANIMAL
Soooooo DG.........did you go through with it?

HUh, Huh, Huh???? BB

**Puddles** · 02-14-05, 11:20 AM

Bump for details, DG. How did things go this weekend?

**dreamgirl** · 02-14-05, 11:23 AM

hello... yes it happened. I LOVED it and I didn't get to be with the other husband. Here's how it went down.

I took the wife and sat her next to my hubby on the couch and put his hands on her lap and they started making out and he had her shirt off in no time. He was sucking on her and hands everywhere and then he told me to stop staring and go have fun, so I went over to the husband and starting kissing him and his neck and I took off his pants and looked over and my hubby was getting blown, which was so hot... I started sucking him and he wasn't aroused at all and it wasn't doing anything, so I moved up and was kissing his nipples and kissing him then i looked over and my hubby was totally naked and the other wife was blowing him... and I could tell that the other husband wasn't feeling any of this... so I just kissed him and layed on him and looked over at my hubby. He licked her and then us wives switched back to our own hubbies. They had intercourse and my hubby licked me. I did cum, I was the only one to do so. Then I went over to the other couple and started kissing the husband while he was f'ing her. Then I sucked on her nipples, then I started kissing her. Which was a first for me. It was so soft. I know she wasn't into girls, so I didn't press my luck. I let them alone and I got myself dressed...

We all talked afterwards and talked about how nervous we all were. Kind of funny.

I am very glad it happened and it was fun and I would definately try it again. The other couple, because of the husband, they are done with it. They were glad it was us they tried it with. We're all friends. I don't feel wierd at all about any of it, I don't feel any guilt, I don't feel different towards my husband. I have great visions of him in my head.

**meat12** · 02-14-05, 11:35 AM

good to hear it went ok dg

**BENCH355ANIMAL** · 02-14-05, 12:02 PM

So it appears the other husband wasn't as excited about sharing his wife as yours was. It seems he was unable to enjoy you because he was having to watch his wife enjoying your husband so much. It sounds more like your you and the other guy got to watch your s/o's have sex with each other. I'm glad you enjoyed it, but I can only imagine the problems the other couple are going to have in the future. The fact that he couldn't get hard or have an orgasm shows he is possibly emotionally disturbed by all of this.

**Face** · 02-14-05, 12:08 PM

Well, he shouldn't have agreed to it then....

Glad to hear it all went well for you and your husband DG, will you be doing it again? If so with the same couple or a different one?

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