What is it about men & their pregnant wives

[redsquirrel]

Can one of you guys who are married and have kids please explain to me why some of you feel "weird" about having sex with your wife when she's pregnant?

I had a cyst early in pregnancy, so sex was restricted. Then my belly started to grow, and now my husband says he feels too weird to have sex with me. I already feel as sexy as a footstool, so the fact that he doesn't want to makes it even worse. What is the issue? I mean, I know that he knows it really doesn't poke the baby in the head. So what is it? Why are guys so freaked out by this? He said he would do it, but he would have to close his eyes- WTF?!?!? Like that helps!?!?

Then last night- he had the audacity to ask me if I forgot how to give a BJ! I said, "uh no- but why would I do that for you, when there is nothing in it for me?" Unbelievable.

[bigbadexcursion]

I dunno. I had a friend who was actually into bangin prego chicks....

[Bouncer]

He said he would do it, but he would have to close his eyes- WTF?!?!? Like that helps!?!?

Then last night- he had the audacity to ask me if I forgot how to give a BJ! I said, "uh no- but why would I do that for you, when there is nothing in it for me?" Unbelievable.

ahahah :rofl: i like this guy.

dont have kids and not married but i am a guy. you know me so i will just give it to ya straight, dont take it personal. a pregnant women is just not something that gets a guy going. its not very attractive. as cold as it sounds, you are mom now as apposed to wife. have to give it some time.

[redsquirrel]

I dunno. I had a friend who was actually into bangin prego chicks....

Well, that ain't helpin....

[FitnessBrat]

ahahah :rofl: i like this guy.

dont have kids and not married but i am a guy. you know me so i will just give it to ya straight, dont take it personal. a pregnant women is just not something that gets a guy going. its not very attractive. as cold as it sounds, you are mom now as apposed to wife. have to give it some time.

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.


Red, I know that's hard and doesn't make you feel good at all. I guess just try not to take it personal. I think it was real shitty for him to ask you that, though - and I know I would have said the same.

[redsquirrel]

ahahah :rofl: i like this guy.

dont have kids and not married but i am a guy. you know me so i will just give it to ya straight, dont take it personal. a pregnant women is just not something that gets a guy going. its not very attractive. as cold as it sounds, you are mom now as apposed to wife. have to give it some time.

LOL. Thought you might like that.

EEEK. Maybe I should delete the thread. LOL

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child? Or, does it all boil down to the unattractiveness of the pregnant body?

Then, you throw in all of the raging hormones, and the slew of female training clients he has, you can only imagine where my mind is going. I mean- 9 + months for a guy to go without sex seems impossible to me.

[FitnessBrat]

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child?

That's the part I don't get. It's one thing for Bouncer to say he isn't attracted to pregnant women - of course, they aren't his wife or carrying his child. It's very different.

[Bouncer]

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.

its not about other men, its about the husband of the wife that's pregnant that looks at it that way. they see the child in their mind etc..


other men dont see it that way. i would love to hump on red for a minute. thats hot. :P

[Bouncer]

LOL. Thought you might like that.

EEEK. Maybe I should delete the thread. LOL

But, wouldn't there be some point of being attracted to someone who is carrying your child? Or, does it all boil down to the unattractiveness of the pregnant body?

Then, you throw in all of the raging hormones, and the slew of female training clients he has, you can only imagine where my mind is going. I mean- 9 + months for a guy to go without sex seems impossible to me.

i dont think its about the way the body looks. i think its more about the image of "mom" with the child. he looks at you differently now in a sense. hope i am making sense.

[redsquirrel]

That's your opinion, so I respect it - HOWEVER, I have found more men that are attracted to a pregnant woman, than not.


Red, I know that's hard and doesn't make you feel good at all. I guess just try not to take it personal. I think it was real shitty for him to ask you that, though - and I know I would have said the same.

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

[redsquirrel]

i dont think its about the way the body looks. i think its more about the image of "mom" with the child. he looks at you differently now in a sense. hope i am making sense.

Actually, now that you go into more detail, it is making more sense. Are you saying it's more like he feels like he's violating me or the child in some way?

[FitnessBrat]

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

So even when you were "barely" pregnant he had an issue?

[Bouncer]

Actually, now that you go into more detail, it is making more sense. Are you saying it's more like he feels like he's violating me or the child in some way?

more like he views you as "family". mom, child, etc..

instead of viewing you as hot wife you hold a different image now. sounds crazy but sort of the same image you have when you think of your mom or dad. its that comforting, down home feeling that has nothing to do with sex etc..

[Bouncer]

:kiss:

Thanks. But, if that's an honest answer, I'm willing to listen.

I'll agree it was shitty for him to ask. What I think was even shittier, was to tell me he'd have to close his eyes if I really wanted to do it. That's just men in general though, I think. They are so insensitive, and just don't think about what they are saying.

The closer I get to my due date, the longer we go, and the bigger I get, the harder it's becoming for me to not think he's getting it somewhere else. I mean, we are talking last JULY here, people! I don't care how unattractive your wife is, you have sex with her if it's been 6 months! I have another 3 months left, so we could potentially not have sex for a year! WTF.

i would have sex with you if that helps. :D

[redsquirrel]

So even when you were "barely" pregnant he had an issue?

No. He wanted to, but we couldn't. Since I had the cyst on my ovary, sex was restricted for I think 8 or 12 weeks...then I started to show. Having sex could rupture the cyst that was supplying hormones to the fetus, and make it also very painful.