HELP WITH GIRLFRIEND!!!!anyone

[Shibby]

Basically do it on her terms.

[bad14u]

Let her know how you feel in a safe enviroment. Meet somewhere where you are both comfortable and able to talk. DO NOT just show up at her work. Send her flowers there with a card that says you want to talk and make sure your # is in the card. If she doesn't call right away, then you need to give her the same space she gave you. Just pray that you haven't waited too long to let her know how you feel! Good Luck!

[diplomats]

thanks to all for taking time to respond. I hope i am not too late because if i am i don't know how i will be able to get over the whole situation.

[pierced one]

Originally posted by diplomats
Thats the thing i do not want to seem like i am stalking her or that i am despirate. how do you mean by step delicatly and carefully.

dont seem pushy. Cool, calm and collected. let her know what you want, but dont seem needy. put all your feelings on a plater, so she can see them. Then let her make the dicision on her time and her terms, but until then hang out cool. if you dont hear from her about it, after a few days or so. ask her one more time. If nothing, put on your game face and go hit the field.

[diplomats]

thanks again for all the tips. She wont answer my calls so there is no wasy to let her know that i am coming to visit. so what do i do? i could just go to her job when she gets off or something. right?

[pierced one]

screams stalker.

You are just hanging out waiting for her after work. kinda creapy dont you think.

might be time to cut your losses and start a new journey.

[beefcake]

Originally posted by diplomats
She wont answer my calls

Is she doing this on purpose, or just not picking up the phone? I see this as payback for treating her like shit all this time. Now she has somebody who is giving her the attention she's been wanting. Plus if he lives with her and he's told her he wants to be more, makes me wonder what else is going on. Especially at night while they're watching tv together. Good luck to you brother, I just don't see this coming out well. I've been in this situation before.

[pierced one]

Originally posted by beefcake
I've been in this situation before.

Me, too. there is a possiblity she doesnt want to talk about it with you. And there is a possibility that she is happy where she is now.

[bonebreaker]

I'm sorry bro, but what do you expect? You say you wouldn't call her for a month and if she called you wouldn't take the call. Women need attention, not constantly, the good ones anyway, but for crissakes, more than once a month. My guess is she is already into this guy and no matter what you do, she's going to hang with him. Again, sorry, but that's the way I see it. BB

[Shibby]

If you can't get ahold of her, then the only thing I could suggest is to mail her a note. Nothing to in depth. Just simply saying something about wanting to talk to her about how you feel. Let her decide if she wants to hear more. It's not fair to her to make her upset if she has decided to move on. Putting her on a guilt trip, will only make her resent you later if it does work for now. Maybe in the letter you could kindly ask her to give you some sort of response even if she dosn't feel like talking to you. Just so you have some sort of closure. Maybe something along the lines of sending you a text, email, or even another letter, saying she got your note but does not want to take it any farther. Hopefully she will have the decency to not leave you wondering and holding on to false hope.

[diplomats]

well i have asked her that she need to tell me where i stand in this relationship. she tells me that she wants to be with me. I just talked to her on the text an hour ago i asked how she was doing and she said that she is still unpacking her stufff in the new apartment. she then says that she slept like a rock yesterday because she was so tired. so i figured that thats the reason she did not answer my phone calls or call back. But when i asked her if she still had feelings for me, she replied on the text "why are you asking me this." I then told her that i need to know because it all looks as if she is sleeping away from my hands and there is nothing i could do. but she did not reply back. Although she already told me that on the text that she was taking care of her sick mother and unpacking her stuff.

[diplomats]

Originally posted by beefcake
Is she doing this on purpose.

i dont know if she is doing it on purpose. each time i ask her if she is screening my calls she just says no that she is busy taking care of her mom and that she can not talk while taking care of her mom. Her mom has a broken leg.

[diplomats]

she refuses to give me closure. i dont know what she is trying to do. oh we had hung out last thursday like there was nothing wrong.

[diplomats]

its like she is confused on who she wants to be with

[diplomats]

anymore tips please i really would appreciate