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**Shibby** · 04-20-05, 05:47 PM

She seems to be in a decisision process. She probably has made the decision to not invest anymore of her feelings into you. Does not sound good for you unfortunately. Sounds like she is trying to move on and is done talking about her feelings. She sounds confused on how to let you go because she did/does care for you alot. Not sure in what way though. She may have liked hanging out with you on Thur, but liked it simply like that. Nothing more than a friend. It may be time for that dreaded word "space". If she truly wants to see if you can just be friends, she is going to have to first cut you out of her life. After she has taken time to put it in the past, she will have to approach you as an old friend and get re-aquainted. But at this point it will just be what it will be since both of you will have redeveloped your lives apart. You can't do anything now but just try and find some closure in her wanting to move on. This may sound harsh but it's a little too late to fall in love with her.

**diplomats** · 04-20-05, 06:02 PM

thanks alot shibby for everything, thanks for all the advices. I will see if she can give me a closure and thats that. Jeez it going to be hard though, very hard.

**diplomats** · 04-20-05, 06:03 PM

so you dont think it will be wise to try one more time just to see what happens?

**Shibby** · 04-20-05, 06:11 PM

You know, some people are all against doing something unless you can do it face to face, but I think that's just ego's getting in the way. I think the most important thing is communication no matter how you get it. It makes things alot easier. Once you have a communication established, then you can work on making it more personal. If she can't tell you face to face all that she is feeling, ask her to put it in an email or something. Let her know that it's ok if that's how she feels comfortable letting her feelings out. This may also help not only in giving you the closure you need, but helping her to get something out that is tearing her up inside. A healthy ending for both people. With something this sensitive, it's not always about how you get the message, but that the message is recieved. Let her know what ever she chooses, that you will just say ok and leave it at that. There will always be more questions no matter what. There is no reason to debate how she feels. First becuase it is how she feels and she has a right to as do you, and second if she has made the decision to move on, you should do your best to be mature enough and respect her decision. Hope things get better for you. Actually I don't hope. You seem to be a self driven and postitive person. As long as you continue to push to stay up you will be just fine.

**diplomats** · 04-20-05, 06:49 PM

thanks a bunch shibby

**bad14u** · 04-21-05, 07:31 AM

Just let her know that when she is ready to talk you will be there! If she wants to talk and you are on your way to the gym....fuck the gym! Putting her in second place has what brought you to this point. Once you have told her that, just go on with your life Bro! If you haven't heard from her in like a week or two then that should let you know that she is letting you go, and you should do the same. You were too busy then and she is too busy now! Sounds lke bad karma but hey....that's life! Good luck and keep us updated bro!

**diplomats** · 04-22-05, 02:24 PM

guy thanks a lot for all the advice that yall gave me. AND SHIBBY I LOVE YOU for responding to my every question you have made a new friend on the board thats for sure.

I spoke to my girlfriend yesterday and she told me that everytime that she got the strength to tell me that she wanted to move on with her life and that it was over, i always happen to either call her up within minutes of her decision or comeover to her house and somehow she is not able to go on with it, and she said this has happened in three occasions. Well yesterday was going to be it for me and her, because she planned on coming over to my house and leaving me a note saying "this is it, its over me and you i am tired on waiting for you, i am moving up with my life." But there i was again at her job with a dozen roses (i really dont buy roses for her except on special occasions) and a lot of apology for everything i have done to her.

Anyway she has forgiving me and we are back together. This is it for me. I told her that i stopped the search of finding my significant other 3 and half years ago when i met her. I am here to stay this time around. FUK HER GUY FRIEND HE needs to go find some where else to stay now. ha ha ha

No really thanks to everybody that helped me go through this yall are all my family here. SHIBBY i cannot thank you enough. Thanks

**beefcake** · 04-22-05, 02:51 PM

You cried didn't you bro. You opened the floodgates and let the tears flow didn't you. LOL J/K. Glad things worked out for ya man.

**Shibby** · 04-22-05, 03:28 PM

Originally posted by diplomats

No really thanks to everybody that helped me go through this yall are all my family here. SHIBBY i cannot thank you enough. Thanks

More than happy to help. Hearing the results makes it all worth it. I'm a sucker for love.

**diplomats** · 04-22-05, 04:19 PM

Originally posted by beefcake
You cried didn't you bro. You opened the floodgates and let the tears flow didn't you. LOL J/K. Glad things worked out for ya man.

how the hell did you know this. yeah i did i am not going to lie. but thanks for the advice i am really greateful

**diplomats** · 04-22-05, 04:21 PM

Originally posted by Shibby
More than happy to help. Hearing the results makes it all worth it. I'm a sucker for love.

yeah, thanks for everything.:) :) :)

**beefcake** · 04-22-05, 05:13 PM

Originally posted by diplomats
how the hell did you know this. yeah i did i am not going to lie. but thanks for the advice i am really greateful

Like I said, i've been there before.

**pierced one** · 04-23-05, 11:10 AM

Originally posted by diplomats
guy thanks a lot for all the advice that yall gave me. AND SHIBBY I LOVE YOU for responding to my every question you have made a new friend on the board thats for sure.

I spoke to my girlfriend yesterday and she told me that everytime that she got the strength to tell me that she wanted to move on with her life and that it was over, i always happen to either call her up within minutes of her decision or comeover to her house and somehow she is not able to go on with it, and she said this has happened in three occasions. Well yesterday was going to be it for me and her, because she planned on coming over to my house and leaving me a note saying "this is it, its over me and you i am tired on waiting for you, i am moving up with my life." But there i was again at her job with a dozen roses (i really dont buy roses for her except on special occasions) and a lot of apology for everything i have done to her.

Anyway she has forgiving me and we are back together. This is it for me. I told her that i stopped the search of finding my significant other 3 and half years ago when i met her. I am here to stay this time around. FUK HER GUY FRIEND HE needs to go find some where else to stay now. ha ha ha

No really thanks to everybody that helped me go through this yall are all my family here. SHIBBY i cannot thank you enough. Thanks

hey man i am glad things worked for you. Never go that way for me, but hey she must be a good women. good luck to the both of you .

**Face** · 04-23-05, 02:05 PM

Yeah diplomats, good luck, make sure you don't take her for granted again, but I am sure you've learnt your lesson now :)

**diplomats** · 04-23-05, 10:40 PM

Originally posted by pierced one
hey man i am glad things worked for you. Never go that way for me, but hey she must be a good women. good luck to the both of you .

Yeah thanks, thanks a bunch.

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